Fr. Michael Harvey: I was trying to make it easier for you.
Maggie Harvey: I didn’t want it made easier, I wanted you to say ‘No’.
Cracker My Brother’s Keeper 1995
While Stacy McCain has simply owned the story of Kaitlyn Ashley Hunt (You might want to go and read his posts on the subject which I will link at the bottom of this one if you are unfamiliar with the case) I’ve only touched on the subject with a single post, an hour on my radio show and in a few twitter exchanges. I’d like to talk about one of them.
During once such twitter exchanges I ended up speaking to a person named Alaini the Greek.
She (or he, you really don’t know who people you haven’t met actually are on the internet) was of the opinion the charges against Ms. Hunt should be dropped. That being the case I asked our Greek friend the following question
— Peter Ingemi (@DaTechGuyblog) May 26, 2013
Our Greek friend hemmed, hawed, threw an insult or two but never did answer the question however there was one thing she DID say that fascinated me and I think really crystallizes this debate and problem.
— Alaini the Greek (@Alainiv) May 26, 2013
I asked my three teenage daughters what they thought.
Facts in the case not withstanding I found that statement extraordinary.
Now I don’t know the age of the daughters in question, we could be talking triplets who are 19 or 13 or a spacing of 18, 16 or and 14 but this is exactly backwards.
It’s no secret that I have very little respect for my generation one of my pet peeves is parents not being parents but trying to be friends.
Part of being a parent is to restrain your children. Even the least skilled or most foolish parent has simply the act of living has more experience than their children and are in a better position to make judgments. A parent needs to set boundaries and establish a code of behavior for them to not only teach them how to be adults but to keep them safe in their formative years. It is not to be their pals.
For example I do NOT allow my sons to call me by my first name, I made it very clear that while I love and respect my sons I am their father, I will always be their father. This is NOT an equal relationship. It is a parents legal and moral duty to raise them and teach them and when that involved saying “No” or punishing them that doesn’t matter.
If you are more interested in being a friend to your kids or to make your their friends think you are cool, then you are abrogating your duty.
Now I haven’t met Katie Hunt, I don’t know her parents and I don’t know how much the father’s issues have to do with what has been done to this point but I would not be surprised if they were the best friend of their darling daughter.
Meanwhile the parents of the minor in this case Jim and Laurie Smith continue to be pilloried because they didn’t “ask their daughter” if she thought it was OK for her at 14 to have sex with an 18-year-old adult in the bathroom at school. They instead took the less progressive view that it was their responsibly to teach their girl right and protect her from what was wrong or from things she was just not mature enough to decide for herself.
Perhaps if the Hunt family followed that example their daughter might not be in the trouble she’s in now.
As for our friend from BC it’s not my place to tell her how to raise her daughters but it’s my opinion her girls will be better off if she more Smith family than Hunt family but even better as she boast of her Greek Ancestry, I’d suggest thinking of her old Greek Grandmother and following that example whenever possible.
But that’s just my opinion.
BTW here are Stacy McCain’s pieces on the subject:
- May 28: #FreeKate Lies Unravel; Roman Polanski Could Not Be Reached for Comment
- May 27: The Story Too Good to Be True
- May 26: In Search of Liberal ‘Principle,’ and Also: Does #FreeKate Have a Larger Agenda?
- May 25: Aggravating Circumstances: Against the #FreeKate Campaign for Sexual Anarchy
- May 25: #FreeKate Lies Rejected by Daily Kos Staffer, and Other New Developments
- May 24: Because She’s Cute, That’s Why
- May 24: BREAKING: Kaitlyn Hunt Refuses Plea Offer, Will Face Trial on June 20
- May 23: Damn You, #FreeKate Liars! UPDATE: Parents of 14-Year-Old Girl Speak Out
- May 22: Liberals Now Arguing for a Lesbian’s Right to Have Sex With a 14-Year-Old Girl
I suggest reading them all:
Update: The Pink Flamingo notes the cost the Smith Family has paid for deciding to practice parenting:
James and Laurie Smith don’t have insurance for family counselling. They’ve been harassed so badly, they’ve disconnected their phones. They’ve taken down web sites. They are being harassed and under protection. Their family has been threatened. Jana Eschbach of http://www.cbs12.com is one of the few people helping the Smiths. If you want to help them, email her. She will make sure the funds get to them. Thanks to the Hunt family they are in bad shape. This is one of the interviews with the Smith family. The press conference for the Hunt family.
Facebook pages down
Hunt’s supporters harassing them
No way to raise money
No support group for the Smiths
This was the first time the Smith child had had sex
The child ran away from home to be with Kate
There is little support for the Smith family online
Meanwhile the Hunts as of this moment have raised over $24,000 via GofundME apparently not parenting pays.
Update 2: Apparently it was unclear that the list in the last update was part of the quote, fixed.
Update 3: Stacy McCain links and gets to the point:
A child, if left unsupervised to pursue his pleasure, is likely to spend all his time watching cartoons or playing video games, to eat nothing but junk food. Not only is this bad for his health and intellectual development, but if he is permitted to acquire such habits, he also acquires the idea that it is his right to live exactly as his chooses, without any obligation to society to make himself useful or productive.
To indulge the child in the illusion of his own competence — to surrender authority to him — is to persuade him that you, the adult, have no superiority to him in terms of knowledge or experience.
Your home cannot be a democracy; children are naturally tyrants.
Let the child have Sudetenland and next he’ll invade Poland.
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