Of the delights of this world, man cares most for sexual intercourse. He will go to any length for it-risk fortune, character, reputation, life itself
It’s been a tough 50+ years but the penultimate battle of the Sexual Revolution is finally over and one of the last barriers to empowerment has happened.
The Obama administration on Monday abandoned its fight to keep age restrictions on sales of a widely used morning-after contraceptive pill
The sexual revolution was a tough fight consider where we once were:
In days past a man who wanted a women was expected to be a good provider, to be able to support not only a wife but an entire family through the sweat of his brow. He was expected to call on a woman, likely with a chaperone to keep an eye on him to offer self-control and to slowly but surely win approval of both the woman and the family to some degree before advancing to the next step.
And if he advanced prematurely or attempted to attain a conquest otherwise he was subject to the disapproval of culture or a shotgun to the back to make sure he did the right thing. The right thing being marriage, and if you finally secured a wife after meeting all these requirements divorce was not considered proper or acceptable culturally.
As a young man it was just as hard if not harder if you wanted a girl your age, since a girl might get a “reputation” if she gave into your advances. You found yourself constantly watched. The lack of effective or easily available birth control and social stigma meant there was a powerful incentive for women to say no. Abortion almost universally was considered a moral wrong, in fact the Hippocratic Oath taken by every single doctor specifically forbade it so taking that risk meant an unwanted child likely put up for adoption. STD being less common meant both you or a young lady would be easily marked so it became very tough to actually bed a girl or even manage what might be considered 3rd base.
And don’t even think about using stimulants such as drugs or booze to get a women or if you were a teen, a girl to a state of willingness.
And if you crossed lines concerning age, or consent if you might find yourself beaten within an edge of your life…if you were lucky.
And for those unable to get what they wanted, pornography was something hidden behind a counter or under a bed, decency standards set strict limits on what was acceptable and what was not, both in film and on TV.
Ah how times have changed.
Now men are free, the idea that a man must support a family is a quaint anachronism. A person who expects such a thing is “paternalistic”. The idea of sex restricted to marriage still taught by the catholic church is considered a laugh and when a celebrity like Tim Tebow comes out for such a thing he is considered puritanical and attacked mercilessly in the press. The Hook up culture means that the very idea of marriage (which we are now redefining for the convenience and ego of others) is obsolete. A man doesn’t have to make a commitment in fact powerful incentives exist in the other direction.
Parents once the cornerstone of protection and moderation are now told that there is no chance to prevent sex so we must make sure it is “safe” as if large quantities of sex at an immature age or even at a mature age have no psychological impact. We encourage and teach our young, in fact we make it part of the curriculum all that might be known about different types of sex and paint it as normal and natural even to the point where those parents that don’t go along with these changes are not informed or able to object.
We make multiple forms of contraception available to those least able to go through the decision process and make laws that facilitate the hiding of these activities to their parents practically a civil right.
And we even re-define sex to exclude activities that were once considered rare, in fact a president of the United States does so on camera to defend a relationship with an intern and a party not only defends him but continues to celebrate him in the same breath as they attack opponents who might object to abortion.
And pornography has been decriminalized and mainstream to the point where no male over the age of 10 has not seen acts that would have gotten a person jailed 60 years ago and because of this young girls find themselves held to such a standard and expectations from a culture and media that celebrates sex above all things and if you aren’t providing such services to a man there is something wrong with you.
And most amazing of all, we define and celebrate and accommodate promiscuity as “liberating” to women and “empowering” and suggest that any other such decision is sexists and holding women back.
And even now there are people donating thousands to defend the right of an adult to have sex with a person underage, we have academics and celebrities defending such things. It’s only a matter of time until that last barrier falls.
In short men. It’s been a long fight but the sexual revolution is over…
Update: Dr. Helen elaborates:
Single men were once looked on with suspicion, passed over for promotion for important jobs, which usually valued “stable family men,” and often subjected to social opprobrium. It was hard to have a love life that wasn’t aimed at marriage, and premarital sex was risky and frowned upon. Now, no one looks askance at the single lifestyle, dating is easy, and employers probably prefer employees with no conflicting family responsibilities. Plus, video games, cable TV, and the Internet provide entertainment that didn’t used to be available. Is this good for society? Probably not, as falling birth rates and increasing single-motherhood demonstrate. But people respond to incentives. If you want more men to marry, it needs to be a more attractive proposition.
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