Years ago a friend once told me a story that stuck with me.  He had a hard time finding a girl until he started dating a friend of mine.  Not too long he talked about the first party they went to together.

He was the life of the party and it seemed that every young attractive lady in the place wanted some of his time.

The reason, he was taken, and because there was no pressure to find a girl he could be himself without fear (and himself was and still is  a pretty cool guy).

A few weeks ago I heard this story again.

Because of an unexpected errand, my wife and I enjoyed a rare weekday breakfast out.

Near the end of our very tasty breakfast at Michael’s Bridge Diner in Lancaster she said something completely out of left field. She suddenly blurted out how liberating it was last week to go out with the girls and not have to worry about being picked up.

Nothing in the conversation to that point had hinted in the slightest toward the subject of her previous week’s girls night out , but I was intrigued so I asked her what was so different about this one?

My wife had been on “Girls nights out” with friends from work many times over the years, and the event from that previous Friday seemed no different to me. The plan was I would drop her off at Singapore (a local Chinese restaurant) and she would call for a ride when she was ready to come home.

There was however a change in plan at the end. When my wife called for her ride around midnight she was no longer at Singapore but at what used to be the old Pinehurst in the neighborhood where I grew up.

It seems that most of her co-workers had to leave early, either they were working the next day or had long rides home so the night was looking very short, one of her friends however was free and suggested that rather than going home she could join her at her favorite pub where they could have some wings, a few more drinks & make a night of it. My wife having the next two days off (and not having to drive) said sure.

Now the idea of my wife going out with the girls to a bar was not a foreign concept to her, before we were married she and her friends would hit local bars for drinking & dancing. That pretty much ended when we started dating, I was never a drinker and once we were married if we went to any such event it would be together.

So this was in effect the first time in almost 30 years that my wife found herself in a bar with a single woman who was checking out the guys and being checked out.

In her words, it was incredible.

Before we started dating such times were always a cause for concern for her full of worry & questions:

Do I look good enough without looking easy?
How am I carrying myself?
Would this guy think she I’m cute?
Will I say or do something that would embarrass me among my friends?
Could I even compete with my friends who are thinner or bustier (or easier)?
Would any of the guys there show any interest in me at all, would they leave me totally devastated?
If I do catch a guy’s eye?  Would he be a nice guy or just some fella looking for something she had no intention of giving?

That Friday was completely different. My wife enjoyed her drinks she enjoyed her friend, she danced, she met plenty of guys, enjoyed her time and had complete confidence in herself?

What was the difference? There was absolutely no pressure.  She wasn’t there to pick up a guy or be picked up. It didn’t mater if the guys her friend introduced her to were cute (some were) or funny or even available. It didn’t matter one jot what they thought of her. She wasn’t there for a pickup, she wasn’t there to be noticed she had the two wedding bands she had worn for over two decades and the engagement ring she had worn even longer. She was not on the market while at least one guy was “very friendly” it was very clear she was not on the market, and if it wasn’t clear from the rings she mentioned “her hubby ” in passing throughout the night.

She didn’t have to impress a man, she just was there to enjoy herself.

I’m very glad my wife had a good time with her friends, she works hard and deserves a fun time with the girls, but I’m even gladder that I spotted that treasure before some other fellow did.


by baldilocks

In honor of Pushkin’s birthday, June 6.alexander_sergeyevich_pushkin

It is one of the ironies of life and history that Alexander Sergeyevich Pushkin (Russian: Алекса́ндр Серге́евич Пу́шкин)—a Russian man partially of African descent–is considered the founder of Russian literature. It is as though the influence of Other was meant to be added to a society which has demonstrated well-documented xenophobia and antipathy toward non- Russians.


Pushkin pioneered the use of vernacular speech in his poems and plays, creating a style of storytelling—mixing drama, romance, and satire— associated with Russian literature ever since and greatly influencing later Russian writers. He also wrote historical fiction. His The Captain’s Daughter provides insight into Russia during the reign of Catherine the Great.

Born in Moscow, Russia, Pushkin published his first poem at the age of fifteen, and was widely recognized by the literary establishment by the time of his graduation from the Imperial Lyceum in Tsarskoye Selo. Pushkin gradually became committed to social reform and emerged as a spokesman for literary radicals; in the early 1820s he clashed with the government, which sent him into exile in southern Russia. While under the strict surveillance of government censors and unable to travel or publish at will, he wrote his most famous play, the drama Boris Godunov, but could not publish it until years later. His novel in verse, Eugene Onegin, was published serially from 1825 to 1832.

In other words, Pushkin penned his works in a manner that the normal, every-day Russian could understand and, by doing so, shaped the Russian language in his own image thereafter. Two and a half centuries before him, William Shakespeare played an identical role for the English language. Continue reading “Sons of Russia and of Africa”

One of the advantages of daily mass in addition to daily Eucharist is daily scripture.

For those not acquainted with the Catholic Mass, a regular Sunday or Saturday vigil mass includes a first reading (usually old testament), a psalm, a 2nd reading (usually an epistle) and then a Gospel reading. These reading rotate on a 3 year cycle (year A-B-C, this is year A)

Unless there is a feast day the daily mass omits the 2nd reading.

During the Easter Season this shifts slightly the first reading tends to come from the Acts of the Apostle while the Gospel Reading tends to be from John.

This morning was the last low mass of the Easter season and the Gospel reading for today was the conclusion of the Gospel according to John Capt 21 Verses 20-24

Peter turned and saw the disciple following whom Jesus loved, the one who had also reclined upon his chest during the supper and had said, “Master, who is the one who will betray you?” When Peter saw him, he said to Jesus, “Lord, what about him?”Jesus said to him, “What if I want him to remain until I come? 12 What concern is it of yours? You follow me.”

So the word spread among the brothers that that disciple would not die. But Jesus had not told him that he would not die, just “What if I want him to remain until I come? (What concern is it of yours?)” It is this disciple who testifies to these things and has written them, 14 and we know that his testimony is true.

There are also many other things that Jesus did, but if these were to be described individually, I do not think the whole world would contain the books that would be written.

It is a significant passage, particularly that last line which often gets short shift. Here John asserts that Jesus did many other things that he did include in this Gospel.

Sacred scripture does not record what these events are, but records that these unwritten events took place. The fact that the apostle makes it a point to mention them suggests these things were of some significance.

While John did not record them obviously he knew about them, and it is reasonable to assume that twelve did as well. After all they traveled and lived with Jesus through his ministry. It is also a reasonable to infer that those teachings and events, such as Veronica wiping the face of Jesus as seen here in a clip from the Passion of the Christ…

…while not written in scripture would have been passed down to their own disciples, who would have passed them down to their disciples’ disciples as well.

And it is here once again that Sola Scripture fails.

The Catholic Church is built upon both Scripture (which is of paramount importance) but also on the traditions handed down from the disciples to their disciples. A straight line traced from Francis back all the way to Peter in Rome and before.

Yet for those whose houses are built on Sola Scriptuora those events are lost forever and must even be denied to justify the rejection of nearly 20 centuries of doctrine by their founders 500 years ago.

It’s a sad thing to comprehend such a loss.

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A lot of people including plenty of folks on the left yesterday are celebrating the bravery of the people who stormed the Beaches or dropped from the sky 70 years ago today to begin the end of one of the two great evils of the 20th century.

They call them “The greatest generation” although the people so honored would not refer to themselves in that way.

The fact that these people are treated with such reverence is a matter of fantastic irony to me for the following reasons.

1.  All of those people who hit the beach or fell from the sky were men

2.  Practically all of those men were white.

3.  An overwhelming number of said White Men were Christians

4.  They all came from a society that said the Lord’s Prayer in public schools

5.  They came from a society where abortion was not only illegal but every single doctor before becoming certified took an oath not to perform one.

6.  They all came from a society that looked down on divorce

7.  They came from a society where it was legal not only for parents to spank their kids but schools could legally paddle them.

8.  They came from a society where even the concept that Marriage might be something other than between a man and a woman would have been scoffed at and if you suggested Gay Marriage was a right would have considered you crazy.

9,  In their society children were expected to obey their parents, show respect for their elders and self esteem just came from results.

Yet these are the greatest generation and the media celebrated these men without reserve yesterday.

Today however is no longer D-Day plus 70 years it is D-Day plus 70-years & one day.  So people who lived those values and those who think such values would solve many of the problems that exist today that didn’t exist 70 years ago can be returned to their proper place in the eyes of the left as racist bigot christofacist homophobes until next D-Day or until the last vet of Omaha beach has died.

When that day comes the left will mourn but the next day they will sigh with relief that they no longer have to pretend to honor men who by their very existence disprove their worldview.

Update: At Fr. Z’s site he has a photo of Mass being celebrated on the D-Day Beach

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Wondering if Maureen Dowd has a line about oppressive patriarchy or our secular humanist care to comment on ignorant non-scientific rubes or perhaps the folks who forced our Mr. Eich at Mozilla care to comment on the lack of gay married couples in the shot?

Nah didn’t think so.

Update 2: Linked by Barbara at American Freedom


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