Right to a hard life

A baby’s right to a hard life

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A baby's right to a hard life

In 2 months, Lord will­ing, our fourth child will be born. He won’t be like the pre­vi­ous three. He has a rare heart con­fig­u­ra­tion that essen­tially has his aorta and pul­monary artery switched up. There’s also a hole in the wall that sep­a­rates the ven­tri­cles of his heart. His is a sit­u­a­tion for which many par­ents would choose abortion.

They wouldn’t nec­es­sar­ily be per­ceived by soci­ety as cruel for doing so. It’s not like they would be doing it for the friv­o­lous rea­sons that so many poten­tial par­ents invoke in mod­ern Amer­ica. They would be doing it to pre­vent the child as well as their cur­rent fam­i­lies from hav­ing to suf­fer through expen­sive health con­di­tions, mul­ti­ple oper­a­tions, and a life restrained by cir­cum­stance. There’s some­thing noble about spar­ing some­one from liv­ing a hard life, right?

No. There’s noth­ing noble nor humane about tak­ing a human life at any stage of devel­op­ment. If given the choice in ret­ro­spect, would you rather go through the new chal­lenges of a deformed heart that ham­pered you, the oper­a­tions that con­stantly put you at risk, and the bur­den that comes to you and your fam­ily? Or, would you rather have never been born at all?

You or I can make this hypo­thet­i­cal choice because we’ve already been given the oppor­tu­nity to live, to learn, and to grow in this world. I would chal­lenge any God-​fearing American’s hon­esty if they would have cho­sen a life cut short over a life of hardship.

Unfor­tu­nately, many cou­ples or indi­vid­u­als in our sit­u­a­tion would believe they were doing the humane thing by pre­vent­ing those chal­lenges from encom­pass­ing another’s life. They would likely be made to feel jus­ti­fied by their doc­tors who all-​too-​often con­done or even encour­age abor­tions when faced with the prospects pre­sented to us.

Our doc­tor is dif­fer­ent. She’s extremely car­ing and hope­ful. She has never pushed us in the direc­tion of abor­tion though she’s acknowl­edged that the option was on the table. Once we made it clear that the option wasn’t on our table, she never brought it up again. Today, I’ll be going in with my wife for our monthly checkup before the next phase of ongo­ing test­ing and mon­i­tor­ing begins. We’ll soon know some of our options on pro­ce­dures to repair the heart or redi­rect blood flow. These are deci­sions that we’ve never had to make, but by the Grace of God we’re not dis­cour­aged. This is His child. We are here to bring him forth and to help him grow.

When abor­tions are done for friv­o­lous rea­son, the lines are clearly drawn with very lit­tle doubt on either side of the aisle. When they’re done for rea­sons such as rape or incest, the line can be blurred a bit for some in the pro-​life move­ment. In sit­u­a­tions like ours, the lines are barely vis­i­ble. Pro-​life par­ents may feel jus­ti­fied to abort for the sake of their fam­i­lies and to pre­vent the pain and strug­gle that their child is cer­tain to expe­ri­ence. To those of you in sim­i­lar sit­u­a­tions, please under­stand that every­one regard­less of sit­u­a­tion or con­di­tion has the right to live their lives. This isn’t a ques­tion of pol­i­tics. It’s a cul­tural bat­tle to define the God-​given right of life itself even when that life is going to be hard.

In 2 months, Lord willing, our fourth child will be born. He won’t be like the previous three. He has a rare heart configuration that essentially has his aorta and pulmonary artery switched up. There’s also a hole in the wall that separates the ventricles of his heart. His is a situation for which many parents would choose abortion.

They wouldn’t necessarily be perceived by society as cruel for doing so. It’s not like they would be doing it for the frivolous reasons that so many potential parents invoke in modern America. They would be doing it to prevent the child as well as their current families from having to suffer through expensive health conditions, multiple operations, and a life restrained by circumstance. There’s something noble about sparing someone from living a hard life, right?

No. There’s nothing noble nor humane about taking a human life at any stage of development. If given the choice in retrospect, would you rather go through the new challenges of a deformed heart that hampered you, the operations that constantly put you at risk, and the burden that comes to you and your family? Or, would you rather have never been born at all?

You or I can make this hypothetical choice because we’ve already been given the opportunity to live, to learn, and to grow in this world. I would challenge any God-fearing American’s honesty if they would have chosen a life cut short over a life of hardship.

Unfortunately, many couples or individuals in our situation would believe they were doing the humane thing by preventing those challenges from encompassing another’s life. They would likely be made to feel justified by their doctors who all-too-often condone or even encourage abortions when faced with the prospects presented to us.

Our doctor is different. She’s extremely caring and hopeful. She has never pushed us in the direction of abortion though she’s acknowledged that the option was on the table. Once we made it clear that the option wasn’t on our table, she never brought it up again. Today, I’ll be going in with my wife for our monthly checkup before the next phase of ongoing testing and monitoring begins. We’ll soon know some of our options on procedures to repair the heart or redirect blood flow. These are decisions that we’ve never had to make, but by the Grace of God we’re not discouraged. This is His child. We are here to bring him forth and to help him grow.

When abortions are done for frivolous reason, the lines are clearly drawn with very little doubt on either side of the aisle. When they’re done for reasons such as rape or incest, the line can be blurred a bit for some in the pro-life movement. In situations like ours, the lines are barely visible. Pro-life parents may feel justified to abort for the sake of their families and to prevent the pain and struggle that their child is certain to experience. To those of you in similar situations, please understand that everyone regardless of situation or condition has the right to live their lives. This isn’t a question of politics. It’s a cultural battle to define the God-given right of life itself even when that life is going to be hard.