There’s a tremendous, oft sadly neglected richness in the English language all of us should use more often. I’m not referring to throwing maximum verbiage around in an effort to appear smart; rather, appreciating how even simple phrases can hold surprising depth. Case in point: someone is getting, or have gotten, the best of you.

The most common association tied to this saying is someone has bettered, or bested, you. He or she ran faster, jumped higher, got the promotion you sought, snagged the one your heart longed for, etc. He or she won, you lost, and you will not be receiving a consolation prize, make-up call, or participation trophy. Suck it up, buttercup. The next competition starts now.

Another implementation exists for someone getting the best of you. Namely, giving someone the best you have to offer: your experience, your support, your love. Sometimes this is gratefully received. Many times … well, not so much.

There are certain things we learn, or at least hopefully learn, as we pass through the years. A prime example of this is coming to grips with how we are best advised accepting the fact that we should not expect respect for our anger, this coming into play the first time during our tender years any of us throw a temper tantrum without reaping the hoped for reward. Unless a spanking was that for which we had a honkering.

We also learn, or should learn, to not expect respect for our tears, or reciprocation for our love. These are far more difficult to swallow. We are taught from the beginning to respect others, to honor the heralded awesome power of love, and that true love always triumphs while conquering all and overcoming all obstacles. Yet through bitter and often embittering experience we learn how love is often impotent, incapable of swaying others in any direction let alone one which we desire. Those who do not learn this, such as starry-eyed women unshakable in their pursuit of utterly undesirable men believing they can transform jerks into jewels, invariably have their ship of hopes dashed against reality’s rocks. You’d think this would be sufficient to teach us, but far too often we embody insanity by attempting the exact same thing while anticipating different results. The Biblical truism that pride goes before a fall is not exclusively reserved for the outwardly arrogant. It also applies to those of us who, while outwardly modest and/or well-intentioned, sadly overestimate our own ability.

It hurts when love isn’t returned. The illustration of a rejected Savior is hard to understand until we encounter a one-sided love of our own. The other person doesn’t look at you in a special way. He or she doesn’t soften when you’re around. He or she isn’t interested in a relationship on any level save perhaps that of casual acquaintance, one quickly forgotten the moment close proximity is no longer in effect. Perhaps the person does allow you to approach them, but even then only within his or her strictly defined and absolute, non-negotiable parameters. Held at arm’s length? Most definitely. Held in each other’s arms? Never. And yes, it makes life a living hell. An accurate description, for hell’s torment is not fire and brimstone, but rather separation from love.

The illustration in Scripture’s most misunderstood and misapplied chapter states that when I was a child, I spoke, thought, and acted like a child; in adulthood laying these childish things aside. It seems strange to think, believe, and act on the notion that there are times when laying love aside is an act of maturity. More accurately, not so much setting love itself on the shelf but learning how to be at peace with the fact others can and will disregard your love for them.

It hurts when love isn’t returned. There is no escaping, no denying the pain. If there is anything good to be drawn from these times, it is from the empathy gained for those also suffering; and how it makes more real our need to embrace — more accurately, allow ourselves to be embraced by — the nail-scarred hands belonging to the Man of Sorrows well acquainted with grief. He knows. He understands. He comforts. And He never rejects our love.

Never.

Many, many times someone getting the best of you is rooted not in their besting you, but rather you giving your best to someone who throws your best away. Forgiving those who have wrongly abused you is brutally difficult. But, it is the highest level of giving your best, one in which we have Christ’s hand on our shoulder as He says, “I know the feeling.”

NOTE: This post was first published in abbreviated form at the author’s personal blog.

One final thought about #ga06 a lot of you who are proclaiming this a defeat for democrats for silly reasons like this

are missing the point.

I mean sure if your actual goal was to win the election and send a Democrat to be a minority member of congress and create a false “Trump is losing” meme then yes GA06 is an unmitigated disaster.

But if you are a member of the professional Democrat political/media class this was a huge success.

If you are a professional Democrat fundraiser you were able to bring in tens of millions of dollars and you got your percentage of the funds to allow you to live in the manner that you have become accustomed to and more importantly you are able to tell the next sacrificial lamb: “Hey If I was able to raise $23 mil for a loser so pathetic that he proposed to his girl of 12 years to try to get elected think of what I can do for a bright (insert SJW approved pronoun here) like you!”

If you are an employee of said fundraiser you not only got a paycheck (likely nothing better than minimum wage certainly not the 15 an hour living wage) but you have “fundraiser for Ossoff” on your resume and the next pol looking to hire is not going to see the “L” he’s going to see the “$23 mil” in his head.

If you are a consultant hired by the Ossoff campaign you not only got a big share of that $23 million to continue to live in the lifestyle that you’ve become accustomed to but you made the hiring decision on who to spend a good chunk of that $23 mil on meaning that hundreds, perhaps thousands of people are dependent on you for patronage and a paycheck and thus loyal. Furthermore you got to decide what companies made signs and what properties were rented by the campaign and thus you are a source of patronage to them (presuming you actually pay those bill rather than leave them as bad debts)

Meanwhile if you are media, you didn’t, particularly if you are a guest commentator you did OK yourself.

Your network and newspaper got weeks of content out of this election with most of the information provided to you by said consultant or employees of said consultant who were happy to provide you the exact pro-democrat spin you were looking to hear before the election was won, and then are willing to provide the so-called “inside dirt” as to who to blame for its loss (you will note that the person blamed will never be said consultants).

And even if you are one of those hollywood or Cape Cod Millionaires whose money was wasted, you’re disappointed but not unhappy for three reasons.

While $23 million sounds like a lot, the reality is for most of you the money you gave is like a regular person putting 50 cents in a pinball machine to play a game, it doesn’t make a dent of a dent on your finances.

You have made said consultants and fundraisers defer to you as a person to be solicited, meaning said people will grovel toward you feeding your ego

At the same time your ego is being fed, you are also virtue signaling, for what counts as pocket change to you, you are able to claim the mantle of liberal morality so no matter how little actual virtue you have, if you cheat on your wife, ignore the actual poor in your neighborhood et/al you can point to this and to the liberal left all your sins are washed away.

This isn’t an election, it’s a Ponzi scheme, and you dear regular liberal who isn’t rich or connected who sent $20 you couldn’t afford and got your hopes up, are the mark. and these are the folks who played you as RedState notes

This flush campaign chest meant that his campaign resembled a military operation, and with it he enjoyed a wildly imbalanced advantage over Handel in many crucial categories:

 

ADVERTISING

Ossoff: $11.2 million

Handel: $1.3 million

 

CAMPAIGN STAFF

Ossoff: 170 members

Handel: 14 members

 

POLLING/FOCUS GROUPS

Ossoff: 1.7 million

Handel: $374K

And all those folks played you perfectly, in other words, Georgia 6 was a perfect success!


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