“Hey baby, you got fries with that shake?” – some dopey guy to some random female walking past
Everylady and her mother has likely been the subject of catcalls at some point in her life. Some people can shrug it off, some can’t – some write articles complaining about it and some write articles complaining about the complainer. I expected, before reading the first article, that I’d find myself siding with the writer of the second, but after reading both I find myself agreeing and disagreeing with both.
Cosmo writer, Alex Berg, decided to keep a log of every time she got catcalled at by random men and what she thinks it means in the context of social justice (or whatever). Daily Caller contributor, Jena Greene, wrote an article fisking the Cosmo piece.
Greene mocks Berg for recalling the exact date, twenty years ago, when she was catcalled for the very first time, which seemed worthy of mocking until I saw in Berg’s article that the event was significant for her because she was only eleven years old and that she had also been groped.
She starts with a fateful lede: “The summer of 2017 marked a less-than-illustrious anniversary for me. It’s been 20 years since I was first catcalled.”
Oh come on. I was expecting something like a 20 year anniversary since you were bitten by a shark or had to relocate because your house was swept away by a hurricane. Those are things worth mourning.
Marking the anniversary of your first catcalling is like marking the date you first had to wait in line for a public restroom. It stinks but everyone goes through it.
But, I wasn’t nearly as shook up then as when I was catcalled and groped for the first time when I was just 11 years-old, waiting outside of a recreation center for my parents to pick me up from gymnastics practice.
And here I thought I was going to enjoy watching an SJW snowflake get melted for over-reacting to “microaggressions” and I find myself thinking I don’t blame Ms. Berg for feeling traumatized at all by the unwanted attention and assaults on her person.
Greene goes on to criticize Berg for what Berg says she had been wearing or doing during the incidents she had logged and suggests she find something better to do and cover herself up. She accuses Berg of being inflammatory, while flaming her.
Berg wrote of confronting some of the men hollering at her, and says she learned that some men were not aware that what they were doing was offensive and could make a person feel unsafe.
I never understood what would compel a man to shout stuff at strange women passing by about her appearance or what they’d like to do to her; do any of them actually expect that a lady is going to be impressed in a positive way to the point of wanting to date or hook up with them? What would they think if they saw some guy talking to their mother, wife, sister, or daughter in such a manner?
I agree with Greene that nearly all females deal with this garbage at some point or other and that there are bigger things to worry about in this life, but I also agree with Berg that it can feel intimidating. I give Berg credit for calling out some of the catcallers and making them think about what they are doing.
The title of Greene’s article sates that Berg’s article on catcalling “backfired” on her, but I don’t quite see it that way, which is a surprise to me since I generally disagree with the type of social commentary that can be found at places such as Cosmopolitan. In fact I never would have found that Cosmo article at all had it not been for the article criticizing it in The Daily Caller, so in that sense, I guess it is actually the DC post that “backfired”.
MJ Stevenson, AKA Zilla, is best known on the web as Zilla at MareZilla.com. She lives in a woodland shack near a creek, in one of those rural parts of New York State that nobody knows or cares about, with her family and a large pack of guardian companion animals.