Is Thankfulness too much to ask for?

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Is Thankfulness too much to ask for?

Nor­mally Thanks­giv­ing is about get­ting together and enjoy­ing each oth­ers com­pany. In my case, with no nearby fam­ily, I tend to host Sailors at my house who can’t travel home to be with fam­ily. They come from a vari­ety of back­grounds, so the con­ver­sa­tions we have over the din­ner table are always inter­est­ing. Despite the time we spend cook­ing, I don’t tend to find hav­ing guests over as stressful.

Appar­ently I’m a minor­ity, at least if you have a Face­book account. Plenty of Face­book friends were com­plain­ing about hav­ing to hang out with their fam­ily, dread­ing the inevitable con­ver­sa­tions about how they are doing (work, fam­ily, etc.) or hav­ing polit­i­cal con­ver­sa­tions. At first I thought maybe that’s just my Face­book friends, and then I found arti­cles like this.

[cap­tion id=“attachment_103017” align=“aligncenter” width=“928”] I still have con­ver­sa­tions like the table on the left, except nor­mally about Star Wars. Image from https://sporeflections.wordpress.com/[/caption]

We’ve obvi­ously lost, or are los­ing, a bit of civ­i­liza­tion here. First, how can we not have decent con­ver­sa­tions any­more? Given the mas­sive realm of things to talk about, I con­tinue to find this amaz­ing. Every­one has hopes, dreams, things that went well and the occa­sional funny story, and if you haven’t seen them most of the year, that should be plenty to share.

Sec­ond, have we for­got about thank­ful­ness? Just the fact that some­one wanted to have you at their house is a good thing. When I vol­un­teered in the past at a senior cen­ter, I was amazed at the num­ber of peo­ple that had no vis­it­ing fam­ily mem­bers. None. One gal hadn’t had some­one visit her in over two years. That’s just sad. That lone­li­ness is unhealthy, and as we get older, it’s only going to get worse.

[cap­tion id=“attachment_103018” align=“aligncenter” width=“300”] I do too…[/caption]

We should be more thank­ful for our fam­i­lies, even if they are dys­func­tional. Be thank­ful when you can see them, as many of us can­not do so. Find some­thing to talk about in the large area of neu­tral top­ics. Above all, eat the food and be happy you live where food is plen­ti­ful and rel­a­tively safe. And remem­ber, Thanks­giv­ing, Christ­mas and all the other hol­i­days aren’t times to sharpen the polit­i­cal dis­cus­sion or set­tle scores.


This post rep­re­sents the views of the author and not those of the Depart­ment of Defense, Depart­ment of the Navy, or any other fed­eral agency.

Why would it any­way? I mean, all the fed­eral gov­ern­ment does is make it a holiday.

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Normally Thanksgiving is about getting together and enjoying each others company. In my case, with no nearby family, I tend to host Sailors at my house who can’t travel home to be with family. They come from a variety of backgrounds, so the conversations we have over the dinner table are always interesting. Despite the time we spend cooking, I don’t tend to find having guests over as stressful.

Apparently I’m a minority, at least if you have a Facebook account. Plenty of Facebook friends were complaining about having to hang out with their family, dreading the inevitable conversations about how they are doing (work, family, etc.) or having political conversations. At first I thought maybe that’s just my Facebook friends, and then I found articles like this.

I still have conversations like the table on the left, except normally about Star Wars. Image from https://sporeflections.wordpress.com/

We’ve obviously lost, or are losing, a bit of civilization here. First, how can we not have decent conversations anymore? Given the massive realm of things to talk about, I continue to find this amazing. Everyone has hopes, dreams, things that went well and the occasional funny story, and if you haven’t seen them most of the year, that should be plenty to share.

Second, have we forgot about thankfulness? Just the fact that someone wanted to have you at their house is a good thing. When I volunteered in the past at a senior center, I was amazed at the number of people that had no visiting family members. None. One gal hadn’t had someone visit her in over two years. That’s just sad. That loneliness is unhealthy, and as we get older, it’s only going to get worse.

I do too…

We should be more thankful for our families, even if they are dysfunctional. Be thankful when you can see them, as many of us cannot do so. Find something to talk about in the large area of neutral topics. Above all, eat the food and be happy you live where food is plentiful and relatively safe. And remember, Thanksgiving, Christmas and all the other holidays aren’t times to sharpen the political discussion or settle scores.


This post represents the views of the author and not those of the Department of Defense, Department of the Navy, or any other federal agency.

Why would it anyway? I mean, all the federal government does is make it a holiday.

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