A Different Kind of Coming-Out and Why Many Won’t Do It

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A Different Kind of Coming-Out and Why Many Won't Do It

by baldilocks

First things: my grat­i­tude to Fausta for fill­ing in for me on Sat­ur­day. I still have some com­puter issues which will be dealt with directly.

Some may remem­ber that one of the first of the gazil­lion sex­ual harassment/​assault accu­sa­tions and rev­e­la­tions was from actor Anthony Rapp, who told of being assaulted by actor Kevin Spacey when Rapp was a 14-​year-​old.

At present, Rapp plays Lt. Paul Stamets on Star Trek: Dis­cov­ery, a show which, despite my ini­tial skep­ti­cism, is excel­lent so far, rival­ing my beloved Deep Space Nine as my favorite Trek. In short,

[cap­tion id=“attachment_103322” align=“alignright” width=“150”] Rapp as Stamets[/caption]

Dis­cov­ery is excit­ing and fun; Rapp appears to be a fine actor.

To repeat what I said here, I fol­low the Social Media accounts of some actors whose work I admire and do so with the expec­ta­tion that they will be liberals/​leftists and will, there­fore, offer some opin­ions with which I strongly dis­agree and Rapp’s polit­i­cal tweets, like that of his co-​star Jason Isaacs, I tend to ignore.

But one thing I can­not ignore is the daily harass­ment received by Rapp due to the rev­e­la­tion. It’s more than abhor­rent. Rapp shares almost every one of the mes­sages with his fol­low­ers and I don’t think that many in my polit­i­cal and spir­i­tual cir­cles are pay­ing much atten­tion to what peo­ple like Rapp are expe­ri­enc­ing. He’s been get­ting mis­sives like this one on his Twit­ter and Insta­gram accounts for months now.

That’s right. Peo­ple are harass­ing Rapp because they thought he had ended House of Cards, a TV show on which Spacey was the star. Spacey was fired after the alle­ga­tion and Spacey’s apology.

I thought it would be inter­est­ing to point out that this is emblem­atic of why rape and sex­ual assault vic­tims often don’t come forward.

Rapp is famous and thou­sands of peo­ple fol­low his account, yet he still gets hun­dreds of nasty­grams from Spacey’s remain­ing fans. Can you imag­ine the type of harass­ment that non-​famous peo­ple receive when they out a predator?

Rapp and I are not on the same “teams.” He’s gay, I’m straight. I’m a Chris­t­ian; I don’t know any­thing about his spir­i­tual beliefs. I’m a con­ser­v­a­tive; he’s a liberal.

But the team I hope I suit up for is decent human being. And I think most DTGB read­ers do as well.

This kind of harass­ment should be outed and the per­pe­tra­tors should be shamed, if possible.*

I don’t think it is, though.

*I’ve re-​thought my posi­tion on shame. Some of it is good.

Juli­ette Akinyi Ochieng blogs at baldilocks. (Her older blog is located here.) Her first novel, Tale of the Tigers: Love is Not a Game, was pub­lished in 2012. Her sec­ond novel ten­ta­tively titled Arlen’s Harem, will be done one day soon! Fol­low her on Twit­ter and on Gab​.ai.

Please con­tribute to Juliette’s JOB: Her new novel, her blog, her Inter­net to keep the lat­ter going and COF­FEE to keep her going!

Or hit Da Tech Guy’s Tip Jar in the name of Inde­pen­dent Journalism!

by baldilocks

First things: my gratitude to Fausta for filling in for me on Saturday. I still have some computer issues which will be dealt with directly.

Some may remember that one of the first of the gazillion sexual harassment/assault accusations and revelations was from actor Anthony Rapp, who told of being assaulted by actor Kevin Spacey when Rapp was a 14-year-old.

At present, Rapp plays Lt. Paul Stamets on Star Trek: Discovery, a show which, despite my initial skepticism, is excellent so far, rivaling my beloved Deep Space Nine as my favorite Trek. In short,

Rapp as Stamets

Discovery is exciting and fun; Rapp appears to be a fine actor.

To repeat what I said here, I follow the Social Media accounts of some actors whose work I admire and do so with the expectation that they will be liberals/leftists and will, therefore, offer some opinions with which I strongly disagree and Rapp’s political tweets, like that of his co-star Jason Isaacs, I tend to ignore.

But one thing I cannot ignore is the daily harassment received by Rapp due to the revelation. It’s more than abhorrent. Rapp shares almost every one of the messages with his followers and I don’t think that many in my political and spiritual circles are paying much attention to what people like Rapp are experiencing. He’s been getting missives like this one on his Twitter and Instagram accounts for months now.

That’s right. People are harassing Rapp because they thought he had ended House of Cards, a TV show on which Spacey was the star. Spacey was fired after the allegation and Spacey’s apology.

I thought it would be interesting to point out that this is emblematic of why rape and sexual assault victims often don’t come forward.

Rapp is famous and thousands of people follow his account, yet he still gets hundreds of nastygrams from Spacey’s remaining fans. Can you imagine the type of harassment that non-famous people receive when they out a predator?

Rapp and I are not on the same “teams.” He’s gay, I’m straight. I’m a Christian; I don’t know anything about his spiritual beliefs. I’m a conservative; he’s a liberal.

But the team I hope I suit up for is decent human being. And I think most DTGB readers do as well.

This kind of harassment should be outed and the perpetrators should be shamed, if possible.*

I don’t think it is, though.

*I’ve re-thought my position on shame. Some of it is good.

Juliette Akinyi Ochieng blogs at baldilocks. (Her older blog is located here.) Her first novel, Tale of the Tigers: Love is Not a Game, was published in 2012. Her second novel tentatively titled Arlen’s Harem, will be done one day soon! Follow her on Twitter and on Gab.ai.

Please contribute to Juliette’s JOB:  Her new novel, her blog, her Internet to keep the latter going and COFFEE to keep her going!

Or hit Da Tech Guy’s Tip Jar in the name of Independent Journalism!