30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: Choose Wisely

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30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: Choose Wisely

One month from today I will be cel­e­brat­ing my 30th wed­ding anniversary.

In an age when we see arti­cles like this from old friend John Hawkins talk about how mar­riage is a bad deal this is a rare thing.

My stan­dard line is to credit this suc­cess to my good luck and my wife’s fail­ing eye­sight but the real­ity is that like any­thing else the suc­cess of my mar­riage is not acci­den­tal and comes from deci­sions both past and current.

So over the next 30 days I’m going to give you 30 tips in no par­tic­u­lar order of impor­tance 30 tips on mak­ing your cur­rent or upcom­ing or future mar­riage last 30 thirty years.

Today’s Tip: Choose Wisely

Eddie Kagle [as Judge Parker] We want to get married.

Min­is­ter: Why? [con­fused looks] Too many peo­ple get mar­ried today with­out ask­ing why?

Angel on my Shoul­der 1946

This is such an obvi­ous state­ment that it seems ridicu­lous to men­tion it but many peo­ple both get mar­ried and choose a mate in haste or with­out con­sid­er­ing the most impor­tant things to consider.

Is this the per­son that I want rais­ing my chil­dren? Teach­ing them right and wrong, pro­tect­ing them?

Will this per­son con­tribute to our mutual part­ner­ship, if not finan­cially, in terms of morale, in terms of action, or spiritually?

Is this per­son com­pat­i­ble with me in the morals and beliefs that I wish to pass onto our children?

Can I see myself wak­ing up next to this per­son in 30 years and being glad that I did?

Today’s cul­ture ignores these ques­tions, encour­ages peo­ple to make rash deci­sions based on tran­si­tory emo­tions, but with­out these impor­tant prac­ti­cal ques­tions, asked and answered up front, you are going to find that the seeds of fail­ure will be planted right at the start.

One month from today I will be celebrating my 30th wedding anniversary.

In an age when we see articles like this from old friend John Hawkins talk about how marriage is a bad deal this is a rare thing.

My standard line is to credit this success to my good luck and my wife’s failing eyesight but the reality is that like anything else the success of my marriage is not accidental and comes from decisions both past and current.

So over the next 30 days I’m going to give you 30 tips in no particular order of importance 30 tips on making your current or upcoming or future marriage last 30 thirty years.

Today’s Tip: Choose Wisely

Eddie Kagle [as Judge Parker] We want to get married.

Minister: Why? [confused looks] Too many people get married today without asking why?

Angel on my Shoulder 1946

This is such an obvious statement that it seems ridiculous to mention it but many people both get married and choose a mate in haste or without considering the most important things to consider.

Is this the person that I want raising my children? Teaching them right and wrong, protecting them?

Will this person contribute to our mutual partnership, if not financially, in terms of morale, in terms of action, or spiritually?

Is this person compatible with me in the morals and beliefs that I wish to pass onto our children?

Can I see myself waking up next to this person in 30 years and being glad that I did?

Today’s culture ignores these questions, encourages people to make rash decisions based on transitory emotions, but without these important practical questions, asked and answered up front, you are going to find that the seeds of failure will be planted right at the start.