30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: Get Married in Church

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30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: Get Married in Church

Jesus Christ: There­fore what God has joined together, no human being must separate.

Mark 10:9

I think it’s no coin­ci­dence that it’s been years since I’ve been to a wed­ding at Church and that so many of the wed­dings I’ve been to dur­ing that time have failed.

To many a wed­ding is just a big party and to be sure a wed­ding is cer­tainly wor­thy of the cel­e­bra­tions that insures a large and joy­ous one if possible.

A Mar­riage how­ever is more, it’s a legal pub­lic acknowl­edge­ment that the per­son next to you is your mate. It says to the gov­ern­ment and the world that the chil­dren that come from this union have a mother and a father and that the peo­ple involved in said union belong to each other.

But a mar­riage in church, par­tic­u­larly a sacra­men­tal Catholic Mar­riage is much more. It is that acknowl­edge­ment made before God some­thing blessed and holy. It’s a con­tract placed before some­thing greater than any mere human indus­try and done in a cer­e­mony that while joy­ous, is also con­sum­mate with the dig­nity and the solem­nity of the event and the entity that the promise is being made before.

To be sure a church wed­ding does not guar­an­tee a mar­riage will sur­vive. From Henry the VIII who was mar­ried Cather­ine of Aragon with the great­est of reli­gious cer­e­mony, to Ronald Rea­gan to our cur­rent Pres­i­dent men and women have revoked these pub­lic dec­la­ra­tions even when made in church. It wasn’t until the 60’s this become not only more com­mon but accepted and it’s no coin­ci­dence that the social ills that come with illig­it­macy , sin­gle par­ent­hood and absent fathers are now the scourge of soci­ety. The Com­mon Thread, the sec­u­lar­iza­tion of the soci­ety and the removal of God from mar­riage made this possible.

This comes from treat­ing the mar­riage con­tract as a “scrap of paper” to be dis­carded by men rather than a sacra­ment made before God to be blessed and kept.

Pre­vi­ously:

Tip 1: Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engagement

Jesus Christ:  Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate.

Mark 10:9

I think it’s no coincidence that it’s been years since I’ve been to a wedding at Church and that so many of the weddings I’ve been to during that time have failed.

To many a wedding is just a big party and to be sure a wedding is certainly worthy of the celebrations that insures a large and joyous one if possible.

A Marriage however is more, it’s a legal public acknowledgement that the person next to you is your mate.  It says to the government and the world that the children that come from this union have a mother and a father and that the people involved in said union belong to each other.

But a marriage in church, particularly a sacramental Catholic Marriage is much more. It is that acknowledgement made before God something blessed and holy.  It’s a contract placed before something greater than any mere human industry and done in a ceremony that while joyous, is also consummate with the dignity and the solemnity of the event and the entity that the promise is being made before.

To be sure a church wedding does not guarantee a marriage will survive. From Henry the VIII who was married Catherine of Aragon with the greatest of religious ceremony, to Ronald Reagan to our current President men and women have revoked these public declarations even when made in church.  It wasn’t until the 60’s this become not only more common but accepted and it’s no coincidence that the social ills that come with illigitmacy , single parenthood and absent fathers are now the scourge of society. The Common Thread, the secularization of the society and the removal of God from marriage made this possible.

This comes from treating the marriage contract as a “scrap of paper” to be discarded by men rather than a sacrament made before God to be blessed and kept.

Previously:

Tip 1:  Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engagement