One of the first bits of advice I remember hearing on marriage came when I was a little kid talking to my Dad.  He had told me that when he got married his father told him to make sure he treated his mother-in-law better than he treated his mother.

He lived this out   In 1968 he moved out of the neighborhood full of his family to build next door to his newly widowed mother-in-law and helped take care of her as needed till the day she died.

Now you don’t have to go to this extreme but that advice remains good.

Remember your spouse’s family is a part of them, the better your relationship with them the better your relationship will be with him or her.  There are a valuable source of information about what your spouse likes and dislikes if you want to set up a surprise or avoid offense.  Furthermore unless there is a specific break those parents are likely the folks they will confide in case of trouble so they will likely indirectly clue you in if there is an issue that is a potential time bomb that you might be completely oblivious to.

And of course the better your relationship with your in-laws the more active they are likely to be when the children come along.  Grandparents who are present and visible not only makes child rearing easier but will make for happier children.

Now there are some caveats here, if there is a big rift between your spouse and the folks then you have to thread carefully.  If there is a divorce involved while you want to embrace both parents and/or step parents the advantages I speak of will only apply to the parent the spouse is close to and you want to be careful to be not to choose a side that will cause a split with your spouse.

Either way the old saying runs through, you ARE marrying the family when you marry so it behooves you to do your best to make not only a happy home but a happy extended family.

Your spouse will thank you for it…maybe even for 30 years.

The 30 Tips to Say Married 30 years so far

Tip 1:  Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engagement
Tip 3: Get Married in Church
Tip 4: Don’t write your own vows.
Tip 5: Set limits early
Tip 6: Live Modestly

I spoke to Yvonne from Illinois at CPAC 2018 at the Gaylord National Harbor

I spoke to her last year as well that interview is here.


DaTechGuy at CPAC 2018 The story (blogged) so far:

Thursday March 15th

Voices of CPAC 2018 Yvonne from Illinois

Wednesday March 14

Voices of CPAC 2018 Kurt Schlichter

Tuesday March 13th

Voices of CPAC 2018 Tony (Don’t call him Anthony) Katz

Monday March 12th

Voices of CPAC 2018 Elizabeth of the Mt. Holyoke College Republicans (Yes you read that right)

Sunday March 11th

Voices of CPAC 2018 Grizzly Joe

Voices of CPAC 2018 Rachel from Virginia

Saturday March 10th

Voices of CPAC 2018 Connor Wolf of Inside Sources

Friday March 9th

Voices of CPAC 2018 Chase from the Houston Young Republicans

Thursday March 8th

Voices at CPAC 2018 Chris from NY Longtime Prolife activist

Wednesday March 7th

Voices at CPAC 2018 Michael from Liberty University

Tuesday March 6th

Voices at CPAC 2018 Sarah Rumpf

Monday March 5th

Voices from CPAC 2018 Doreen from Michigan
Voices of CPAC 2018 Susan from New Mexico

Sunday March 4th
Voices of CPAC 2018 Myra Adams

Friday March 2nd

Voices of CPAC 2018 John Hawkins and Sierra Marlee

CPAC 2018: Two Men who made a Difference For Me

Wednesday Feb 20

Voices at CPAC 2018 Dylan and Watson

Voices at CPAC 2018 Kira Innis (Two Angles)

Monday Feb 26th

Voices of CPAC 2018 Greg Penglis of WEBY 1330 Radio

Sunday Feb 25th

CPAC 2018 Dutch Kitchen Cannoli Sicilian from Brooklyn Approved

Saturday Feb 24th

CPAC 2018 / Don’t give a VUK Meet the Voter the Media Narrative says Does Exist

Friday Feb 23rd

Voices at CPAC 2018 Senator Ted Cruz Answers Two Question for DaTechGuy

Thurs Feb 22nd

We Interrupt CPAC 2018 for CNN and their Gun Control Galaxy Quest Moment
Voices of CPAC 2018: Ron from PA

Wed Feb. 21st

Voices at CPAC 2018 Vicki from Minnesota

Voices at (or near) #cpac2018 Lea from National Association of Developmental Educators We talk Students and Math

DaTechGuy at CPAC 2018 The Calm Before the Storm and What I’ll be Asking

If you don’t want to wait or my blog posts to see my interviews my youtube channel is here.

Full CPAC 2017 list (for those who feel nostalgic) is here

A reminder I have copies of my Book Hail Mary the perfect Protestant (and Catholic) Prayer available at CPAC with me, price $7 and I will happily sign them for you.

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We dispense with oral argument because the facts and legal conditions are adequately presented in the materials before this court and argument would not aid the decisional process.

US court of Appeals For the 4th District handing Bret Kimberlin another defeat yesterday.

I swung over to Hogewash today and along with the news of the latest blow to the cause of Kimberlin vs the conservative blogging world spotted this Team Kimberlin Post of the Day where Mr. Hoge notes some tweets from Commander Strax Bill Schmalfeldt suggesting that Mr. Hoge has “less than nothing” in terms of legal avenues to pursue against him.

Based on today’s court ruling the “less than nothing” seems to be aptly applied to the ability of the Kimberlin crew’s credibility although for myself I find the fact that the Kimberlin cases are still before the courts years later a bit sad.

While there may be merit in legally finishing off the Kimberlin crowd, who made some real trouble back in the day, to set an example for the next one, given their lack of utility for the left and their legal impotency against the right I can’t get myself all that excited about them.

I’m sure it’s likely the legal trail they have left would put them in jeopardy you would need a person with time, money and the tenacity of an engineer to pursue it to the end and people like Michelle Malkin, Robert Stacy McCain, Lee Stranahan, Aaron Walker, Patrick Frey, Ace of Spades, James O’Keefe, Ali Akbar and Erick Erickson between family and work simply have too much going on to spend precious time finishing off Kimberlin and company.

That’s why they should be worried about Mr. Hoge.

As a retired widower with the children long out of the nest he has the time all of those other lack. As an engineer trained in attention to detail he has the meticulous malicious nature necessary to research the openings that the mendacity of his foes have exposed and most important of all as someone whose expertise is still sought after and compensated accordingly for it, he , even in retirement, has the funds to jump though the various legal and financial hoops to get to the finish line.

In short Mr. Hoge in addition to the truth, facts, law and right on his side, he the time, the money the patience and the tenacity to follow all of this to the end coupled the temperament to do it with a smile.

Murum aries attigit

Update: Thanks to commentator nobody Atall who spotted the spell checker turning “meticulous” which it should be to “malicious” which it should not. Bill Hoge is not malicious in the least

This from Instapundit on the death of Stephen Hawking jumped out at me.

Stephen Hawking dies aged 76 peacefully at his home — 55 years after the world-famous physicist was diagnosed with ALS and given just two years to live.

Hawkins was diagnosed in 1963 the year I was born. Judeo-Christian values were still the norm in England and America. The Hippocratic oath had not been re-written. It was a time when the right to life was a given, where assisted suicide, euthanasia and the “right to die” was limited to a lunatic fringe as opposed to being accepted by all the right thinking elites.

So I ask you this:

If Stephen Hawking was diagnosed today and told he had two years to live what are the odds that he decides to take his own life? Furthermore how man potential future Stephen Hawkings have we either killed or encouraged to kill themselves?


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