30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years: Today’s Tip Embrace Your Mother-In-Law

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30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years: Today's Tip Embrace Your Mother-In-Law

One of the first bits of advice I remem­ber hear­ing on mar­riage came when I was a lit­tle kid talk­ing to my Dad. He had told me that when he got mar­ried his father told him to make sure he treated his mother-​in-​law bet­ter than he treated his mother.

He lived this out In 1968 he moved out of the neigh­bor­hood full of his fam­ily to build next door to his newly wid­owed mother-​in-​law and helped take care of her as needed till the day she died.

Now you don’t have to go to this extreme but that advice remains good.

Remem­ber your spouse’s fam­ily is a part of them, the bet­ter your rela­tion­ship with them the bet­ter your rela­tion­ship will be with him or her. There are a valu­able source of infor­ma­tion about what your spouse likes and dis­likes if you want to set up a sur­prise or avoid offense. Fur­ther­more unless there is a spe­cific break those par­ents are likely the folks they will con­fide in case of trou­ble so they will likely indi­rectly clue you in if there is an issue that is a poten­tial time bomb that you might be com­pletely obliv­i­ous to.

And of course the bet­ter your rela­tion­ship with your in-​laws the more active they are likely to be when the chil­dren come along. Grand­par­ents who are present and vis­i­ble not only makes child rear­ing eas­ier but will make for hap­pier children.

Now there are some caveats here, if there is a big rift between your spouse and the folks then you have to thread care­fully. If there is a divorce involved while you want to embrace both par­ents and/​or step par­ents the advan­tages I speak of will only apply to the par­ent the spouse is close to and you want to be care­ful to be not to choose a side that will cause a split with your spouse.

Either way the old say­ing runs through, you ARE mar­ry­ing the fam­ily when you marry so it behooves you to do your best to make not only a happy home but a happy extended family.

Your spouse will thank you for it…maybe even for 30 years.

The 30 Tips to Say Mar­ried 30 years so far

Tip 1: Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engage­ment
Tip 3: Get Mar­ried in Church
Tip 4: Don’t write your own vows.
Tip 5: Set lim­its early
Tip 6: Live Mod­estly

One of the first bits of advice I remember hearing on marriage came when I was a little kid talking to my Dad.  He had told me that when he got married his father told him to make sure he treated his mother-in-law better than he treated his mother.

He lived this out   In 1968 he moved out of the neighborhood full of his family to build next door to his newly widowed mother-in-law and helped take care of her as needed till the day she died.

Now you don’t have to go to this extreme but that advice remains good.

Remember your spouse’s family is a part of them, the better your relationship with them the better your relationship will be with him or her.  There are a valuable source of information about what your spouse likes and dislikes if you want to set up a surprise or avoid offense.  Furthermore unless there is a specific break those parents are likely the folks they will confide in case of trouble so they will likely indirectly clue you in if there is an issue that is a potential time bomb that you might be completely oblivious to.

And of course the better your relationship with your in-laws the more active they are likely to be when the children come along.  Grandparents who are present and visible not only makes child rearing easier but will make for happier children.

Now there are some caveats here, if there is a big rift between your spouse and the folks then you have to thread carefully.  If there is a divorce involved while you want to embrace both parents and/or step parents the advantages I speak of will only apply to the parent the spouse is close to and you want to be careful to be not to choose a side that will cause a split with your spouse.

Either way the old saying runs through, you ARE marrying the family when you marry so it behooves you to do your best to make not only a happy home but a happy extended family.

Your spouse will thank you for it…maybe even for 30 years.

The 30 Tips to Say Married 30 years so far

Tip 1:  Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engagement
Tip 3: Get Married in Church
Tip 4: Don’t write your own vows.
Tip 5: Set limits early
Tip 6: Live Modestly