30 Tips to Stay Married 30 years, Today’s tip: Angry Gifts.

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30 Tips to Stay Married 30 years, Today's tip: Angry Gifts.

Beloved, do not look for revenge but leave room for the wrath; for it is writ­ten, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” Rather, “if your enemy is hun­gry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him some­thing to drink; for by so doing you will heap burn­ing coals upon his head.”

Romans 12:1920

This is some­thing that was an inno­va­tion of my wife’s and it is absolutely bril­liant.
There was a day I had really made her angry over some­thing, I don’t remem­ber what, but it must have been some­thing big because the left the house steaming.

She ended up at a store and while there saw some­thing that she knew I would like. On an impulse she pur­chased it for me and came home and gave it to me as a gift.

If there was one thing I wasn’t pre­pared for it was that. I was com­pletely and pleas­antly sur­prised, par­tic­u­larly given the state she was in when she left and was loud in my pro­nounce­ments of gratitude.

It com­pletely dif­fused the sit­u­a­tion. Nei­ther of us could stay mad at that point and the argu­ment was forgotten.

Some time later we found our­selves in a sim­i­lar sit­u­a­tion and this time I had left the house, and remem­ber­ing her gift to me, I did the same find­ing some­thing I knew she would like and com­ing home with it. Once again there was sur­prise and reconciliation.

It’s very hard to stay angry at some­one you are buy­ing a gift for and it’s even harder to stay angry at some­one who has given you a gift.

Now I should point out that this tip should be reserved for a real Don­ny­brook rather than a small tiff but when used in a crit­i­cal sit­u­a­tion it really pays off

Tip 1: Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engage­ment
Tip 3: Get Mar­ried in Church
Tip 4: Don’t write your own vows.
Tip 5: Set lim­its early
Tip 6: Live Mod­estly
Tip 7: Embrace Your Mother-​In-​Law
Tip 8: If pos­si­ble take advan­tage of your parent’s advice.
Tip 9: Don’t Diss your spouse to your friends
Tip 10: Remem­ber Birthday’s and Anniver­saries
Tip 11: 30 Tips to Stay Mar­ried 30 Years Today: NEVER VENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA!
Tip 12: 30 Tips to stay Mar­ried 30 years Today’s Tip: Pray

Beloved, do not look for revenge but leave room for the wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” Rather, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals upon his head.”

Romans 12:19-20

This is something that was an innovation of my wife’s and it is absolutely brilliant.
There was a day I had really made her angry over something, I don’t remember what, but it must have been something big because the left the house steaming.

She ended up at a store and while there saw something that she knew I would like. On an impulse she purchased it for me and came home and gave it to me as a gift.

If there was one thing I wasn’t prepared for it was that. I was completely and pleasantly surprised, particularly given the state she was in when she left and was loud in my pronouncements of gratitude.

It completely diffused the situation. Neither of us could stay mad at that point and the argument was forgotten.

Some time later we found ourselves in a similar situation and this time I had left the house, and remembering her gift to me, I did the same finding something I knew she would like and coming home with it. Once again there was surprise and reconciliation.

It’s very hard to stay angry at someone you are buying a gift for and it’s even harder to stay angry at someone who has given you a gift.

Now I should point out that this tip should be reserved for a real Donnybrook rather than a small tiff but when used in a critical situation it really pays off

Tip 1:  Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engagement
Tip 3: Get Married in Church
Tip 4: Don’t write your own vows.
Tip 5: Set limits early
Tip 6: Live Modestly
Tip 7: Embrace Your Mother-In-Law
Tip 8: If possible take advantage of your parent’s advice.
Tip 9: Don’t Diss your spouse to your friends
Tip 10: Remember Birthday’s and Anniversaries
Tip 11: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: NEVER VENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA!
Tip 12: 30 Tips to stay Married 30 years Today’s Tip: Pray