30 tips to stay married 30 years. Don’t spoil the kids, particularly early.

by Datechguy | March 28th, 2018

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30 tips to stay married 30 years. Don't spoil the kids, particularly early.

It’s time to bring up the sub­ject of kids

I was watch­ing a video of my kids first cou­ple of christ­mas’ and in so doing what really jumped out at me was how the whole gift busi­ness seemed all about us rather than the kids.

Every time the kid opened a gift they liked and wanted to play with it we were chas­ing another gift, it was par­tic­u­larly funny when watch­ing my old­est who was fas­ci­nated by a pen­cil, we would keep giv­ing him another gift to open, he would smile, hold it for a while and head back to the pen­cil. He would have been com­pletely happy play­ing with said pen­cil till the next day (even today his spare time when not gam­ing is spent drawing).

Not only did that pile of gifts become clut­ter that would make daw­ife crazy but once a per­son gets a large num­ber of gifts sud­denly the excep­tions game changed and not for the better.

If instead of a flock of gifts we pur­chased one or two each Christ­mas for the boys and told any rel­a­tives who wanted to kick in to buy em sav­ings bonds the house would have been a lot less clut­tered, their bank accounts would have done even bet­ter than they did and most impor­tant of all they would have not only appre­ci­ated the stuff they had a lot more but learned that life isn’t about stuff.

And of course I sus­pect two and a half decades later with bills and loans to pay they would really appre­ci­ate the nest egg that twenty years of extra sav­ings would have meant.

The time to avoid spoil­ing your child is always now, if you already have kids, the time to start is now, if you haven’t yet now’s the time to resist the temp­ta­tion of watch­ing them open gift after gift. I know there is joy in that but you’ll have more from a well adjusted kid who isn’t obsessed with things and an adult who knows the value of them.

Tip 1: Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engage­ment
Tip 3: Get Mar­ried in Church
Tip 4: Don’t write your own vows.
Tip 5: Set lim­its early
Tip 6: Live Mod­estly
Tip 7: Embrace Your Mother-​In-​Law
Tip 8: If pos­si­ble take advan­tage of your parent’s advice.
Tip 9: Don’t Diss your spouse to your friends
Tip 10: Remem­ber Birthday’s and Anniver­saries
Tip 11: 30 Tips to Stay Mar­ried 30 Years Today: NEVER VENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA!
Tip 12: 30 Tips to stay Mar­ried 30 years Today’s Tip: Pray
Tip 13: Angry Gifts
Tip 14: Don’t sweat the Small stuff
Tip 15: 30 Tips to Stay Mar­ried 30 Years, Today: Care­fully Choose the Hills Worth Dying On
Tip 16: 30 Tips to Stay Mar­ried 30 Years: Today’s Tip Avoid Temp­ta­tion and Sus­pi­cion
Tip 17: 30 Tips to Stay Mar­ried 30 Years Have an Argu­ment Escape Plan (and or let your spouse use their’s)

It’s time to bring up the subject of kids

I was watching a video of my kids first couple of christmas’ and in so doing what really jumped out at me was how the whole gift business seemed all about us rather than the kids.

Every time the kid opened a gift they liked and wanted to play with it we were chasing another gift, it was particularly funny when watching my oldest who was fascinated by a pencil, we would keep giving him another gift to open, he would smile, hold it for a while and head back to the pencil. He would have been completely happy playing with said pencil till the next day (even today his spare time when not gaming is spent drawing).

Not only did that pile of gifts become clutter that would make dawife crazy but once a person gets a large number of gifts suddenly the exceptions game changed and not for the better.

If instead of a flock of gifts we purchased one or two each Christmas for the boys and told any relatives who wanted to kick in to buy em savings bonds the house would have been a lot less cluttered, their bank accounts would have done even better than they did and most important of all they would have not only appreciated the stuff they had a lot more but learned that life isn’t about stuff.

And of course I suspect two and a half decades later with bills and loans to pay they would really appreciate the nest egg that twenty years of extra savings would have meant.

The time to avoid spoiling your child is always now, if you already have kids, the time to start is now, if you haven’t yet now’s the time to resist the temptation of watching them open gift after gift. I know there is joy in that but you’ll have more from a well adjusted kid who isn’t obsessed with things and an adult who knows the value of them.

Tip 1:  Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engagement
Tip 3: Get Married in Church
Tip 4: Don’t write your own vows.
Tip 5: Set limits early
Tip 6: Live Modestly
Tip 7: Embrace Your Mother-In-Law
Tip 8: If possible take advantage of your parent’s advice. 
Tip 9: Don’t Diss your spouse to your friends
Tip 10: Remember Birthday’s and Anniversaries
Tip 11: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: NEVER VENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA!
Tip 12: 30 Tips to stay Married 30 years Today’s Tip: Pray
Tip 13: Angry Gifts
Tip 14: Don’t sweat the Small stuff
Tip 15: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years, Today: Carefully Choose the Hills Worth Dying On
Tip 16: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years: Today’s Tip Avoid Temptation and Suspicion
Tip 17: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Have an Argument Escape Plan (and or let your spouse use their’s)

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