A House divided against itself can not stand
Sir Richard Warrington: We even see a danger of the cabinet perusing it’s own foreign policy
Sir Humphrey: But That’s absurd! The country can’t have two foreign policies!
Yes Prime Minister A Victory of Democracy 1986
Let’s pivot away from the fight game for a bit.
One of the most important things to remember is that as a married couple you are a single unit, no longer just two people but one flesh.
This is a very important thing to keep in mind when dealing with people and groups outside of your marriage, with relatives particularly with your kids.
Let’s start with the kids, the more united you are when dealing with your children the more likely you will be able to direct their path to a better direction, furthermore it will make it much harder for said kids to try and play you and your spouse off of each other. For a lot of basic things you want to be discussing before they come up, if the kid hits you with something you don’t expect, postpone a decision till the two of you can confer the key word here is UNITY
When dealing with groups other than the kids and a decision is either called for pushed at you again the thing to do is to defer a commitment in these situations until you get a chance to make that united front, if a decision can’t be deferred and only one of you are present then make sure any such statement is made with the understanding that you have to consult with your spouse to finalize it.
By all means has things out in private and make your cases but come to a single public position and make sure that’s what is presented to the kids and others.
A united front makes the family stronger, it fosters communication to come to that decision, foils others who want to make things rough for you (and such people DO exist) and most importantly when dealing with family and kids makes sure everyone is traveling int the same direction.
Want a strong marriage, build it on unity.
My 30 Tips so far
Tip 1: Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engagement
Tip 3: Get Married in Church
Tip 4: Don’t write your own vows.
Tip 5: Set limits early
Tip 6: Live Modestly
Tip 7: Embrace Your Mother-In-Law
Tip 8: If possible take advantage of your parent’s advice.
Tip 9: Don’t Diss your spouse to your friends
Tip 10: Remember Birthday’s and Anniversaries
Tip 11: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: NEVER VENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA!
Tip 12: 30 Tips to stay Married 30 years Today’s Tip: Pray
Tip 13: Angry Gifts
Tip 14: Don’t sweat the Small stuff
Tip 15: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years, Today: Carefully Choose the Hills Worth Dying On
Tip 16: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years: Today’s Tip Avoid Temptation and Suspicion
Tip 17: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Have an Argument Escape Plan (and or let your spouse use their’s)
Tip 18: 30 tips to stay married 30 years. Don’t spoil the kids, particularly early.