30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Remember Marriage is Work

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30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Remember Marriage is Work

Prince Arthur: But if you all work all day every day when is the time for Adven­ture?
Lit­tle John: Life is nine tenths work my boy and a lit­tle play when you can get it. The same in the green­wood as it is on the Lord’s manor or in Not­ting­ham town

The Adven­tures of Robin Hood The Youngest Out­law 1955

One of the real prob­lems of the cur­rent cul­ture, par­tic­u­larly TV cul­ture is the idea that mar­riage is all about the things you do together, the places you go the things you see etc etc etc.

The real­ity how­ever is quite different.

Mar­riage is all about wak­ing up each moment with a dif­fer­ent per­son and liv­ing your life with them, that means all the nor­mal things of life which means work and plenty of it.

It also means get­ting along which is also work

And of course your reg­u­lar pay­ing job of what­ever type you have which again means work.

In other words more of the time of your mar­riage is going to be spent at work and if you come into mar­riage not know­ing real­iz­ing this you are in for a nasty surprise.

But if you go into mar­riage cog­nizant of this, ignor­ing what the cul­ture claims and instead pre­pare to work at it, your odds of stay­ing mar­ried a long time will be con­sid­er­ably increased

My 30 Tips so far

Tip 1: Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engage­ment
Tip 3: Get Mar­ried in Church
Tip 4: Don’t write your own vows.
Tip 5: Set lim­its early
Tip 6: Live Mod­estly
Tip 7: Embrace Your Mother-​In-​Law
Tip 8: If pos­si­ble take advan­tage of your parent’s advice.
Tip 9: Don’t Diss your spouse to your friends
Tip 10: Remem­ber Birthday’s and Anniver­saries
Tip 11: 30 Tips to Stay Mar­ried 30 Years Today: NEVER VENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA!
Tip 12: 30 Tips to stay Mar­ried 30 years Today’s Tip: Pray
Tip 13: Angry Gifts
Tip 14: Don’t sweat the Small stuff
Tip 15: 30 Tips to Stay Mar­ried 30 Years, Today: Care­fully Choose the Hills Worth Dying On
Tip 16: 30 Tips to Stay Mar­ried 30 Years: Today’s Tip Avoid Temp­ta­tion and Sus­pi­cion
Tip 17: 30 Tips to Stay Mar­ried 30 Years Have an Argu­ment Escape Plan (and or let your spouse use their’s)
Tip 18: 30 tips to stay mar­ried 30 years. Don’t spoil the kids, par­tic­u­larly early.
Tip 19: A United Front

Prince Arthur: But if you all work all day every day when is the time for Adventure?
Little John: Life is nine tenths work my boy and a little play when you can get it. The same in the greenwood as it is on the Lord’s manor or in Nottingham town

The Adventures of Robin Hood The Youngest Outlaw 1955

One of the real problems of the current culture, particularly TV culture is the idea that marriage is all about the things you do together, the places you go the things you see etc etc etc.

The reality however is quite different.

Marriage is all about waking up each moment with a different person and living your life with them, that means all the normal things of life which means work and plenty of it.

It also means getting along which is also work

And of course your regular paying job of whatever type you have which again means work.

In other words more of the time of your marriage is going to be spent at work and if you come into marriage not knowing realizing this you are in for a nasty surprise.

But if you go into marriage cognizant of this, ignoring what the culture claims and instead prepare to work at it, your odds of staying married a long time will be considerably increased

My 30 Tips so far

Tip 1:  Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engagement
Tip 3: Get Married in Church
Tip 4: Don’t write your own vows.
Tip 5: Set limits early
Tip 6: Live Modestly
Tip 7: Embrace Your Mother-In-Law
Tip 8: If possible take advantage of your parent’s advice. 
Tip 9: Don’t Diss your spouse to your friends
Tip 10: Remember Birthday’s and Anniversaries
Tip 11: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: NEVER VENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA!
Tip 12: 30 Tips to stay Married 30 years Today’s Tip: Pray
Tip 13: Angry Gifts
Tip 14: Don’t sweat the Small stuff
Tip 15: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years, Today: Carefully Choose the Hills Worth Dying On
Tip 16: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years: Today’s Tip Avoid Temptation and Suspicion
Tip 17: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Have an Argument Escape Plan (and or let your spouse use their’s)
Tip 18: 30 tips to stay married 30 years. Don’t spoil the kids, particularly early.
Tip 19: A United Front