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Crooked Love

by baldilocks

Love is in the air.

Mass mur­derer Niko­las Cruz is get­ting stacks of fan mail and love let­ters sent to the Broward County jail, along with hun­dreds of dol­lars in con­tri­bu­tions to his com­mis­sary account.

Teenage girls, women and even older men are writ­ing to the Park­land school shooter and send­ing pho­tographs — some sug­ges­tive — tucked inside cute greet­ing cards and attached to note­book paper with offers of friend­ship and encour­age­ment. Groupies also are join­ing Face­book com­mu­ni­ties to talk about how to help the killer.

The South Florida Sun Sen­tinel obtained copies of some of the let­ters show­ing that Cruz, who had few friends in the out­side world, is now being show­ered with attention. (…)

A teenager wrote on March 15: “I’m 18-​years-​old. I’m a senior in high school. When I saw your pic­ture on the tele­vi­sion, some­thing attracted me to you.” (…)

A woman from Chicago enclosed nine sug­ges­tive pho­tos, includ­ing a shot of cleav­age, another in a skimpy bikini eat­ing a Pop­si­cle and a tight shot of her back­side as she bent over. Another girl sent pho­tos with Hello Kitty Snapchat filters. (…)

This sort of thing is cer­tainly not unprece­dented. Charles Man­son, Ted Bundy and, more recently, Dzhokhar Tsar­naev – one of the per­pe­tra­tors of the 2013 Boston Marathon Bomb­ing – are exam­ples of mass murders/​serial killers who attracted throngs of women.

It shouldn’t even be sur­pris­ing. The Devil has tons of fans; why wouldn’t his ser­vants also attract those who find excite­ment in evil?

Mov­ing away from these extremes, so-​called nor­mal women find “bad boys” attrac­tive, too. Such men may not be killers or law-​breakers of any kind, but they are per­ceived as rule-​breakers and that edgi­ness is excit­ing – for a while. Men are also attracted by “crazy women.” (My streak of devi­ous­ness tells me many such women are some of the san­est among us.)

This sort of attrac­tion is sym­bolic of a cer­tain absence within an indi­vid­ual; a skewed sense of that which is good, faith­ful and true. For the warped mind, such things are boring.

Many of us are a lit­tle or a lot warped in this way. The key to defeat­ing this kind of think­ing is, of course, stick­ing close to the God of the Bible. Through this, we can get a clear view of the faults in our­selves and we can ask God to help us remove these faults.

I under­stand this for a good rea­son. I’ve had to give over to God my own warped view of what a lov­ing man-​woman rela­tion­ship should be. I was never into Bad Boys, but there were other issues. Some­times, it nec­es­sary to have a seat and stay sit­ting down for an extended period. So it is that I have remained sin­gle for some time.

And that’s the key: rec­og­nize the prob­lem, remove one­self from it, and ask the Pro­fes­sional Fixer of Things for help.

As for the wannabe lovers of ser­ial killers, how­ever, the fist step — recog­ni­tion — can’t hap­pen when one’s eyes are closed.

Juli­ette Akinyi Ochieng has been blog­ging since 2003 as baldilocks. Her older blog is here. She pub­lished her first novel, Tale of the Tigers: Love is Not a Game in 2012.

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by baldilocks

Love is in the air.

Mass murderer Nikolas Cruz is getting stacks of fan mail and love letters sent to the Broward County jail, along with hundreds of dollars in contributions to his commissary account.

Teenage girls, women and even older men are writing to the Parkland school shooter and sending photographs — some suggestive — tucked inside cute greeting cards and attached to notebook paper with offers of friendship and encouragement. Groupies also are joining Facebook communities to talk about how to help the killer.

The South Florida Sun Sentinel obtained copies of some of the letters showing that Cruz, who had few friends in the outside world, is now being showered with attention. (…)

A teenager wrote on March 15: “I’m 18-years-old. I’m a senior in high school. When I saw your picture on the television, something attracted me to you.” (…)

A woman from Chicago enclosed nine suggestive photos, including a shot of cleavage, another in a skimpy bikini eating a Popsicle and a tight shot of her backside as she bent over. Another girl sent photos with Hello Kitty Snapchat filters. (…)

This sort of thing is certainly not unprecedented. Charles Manson, Ted Bundy and, more recently, Dzhokhar Tsarnaev – one of the perpetrators of the 2013 Boston Marathon Bombing – are examples of mass murders/serial killers who attracted throngs of women.

It shouldn’t even be surprising. The Devil has tons of fans; why wouldn’t his servants also attract those who find excitement in evil?

Moving away from these extremes, so-called normal women find “bad boys” attractive, too. Such men may not be killers or law-breakers of any kind, but they are perceived as rule-breakers and that edginess is exciting – for a while. Men are also attracted by “crazy women.” (My streak of deviousness tells me many such women are some of the sanest among us.)

This sort of attraction is symbolic of a certain absence within an individual; a skewed sense of that which is good, faithful and true. For the warped mind, such things are boring.

Many of us are a little or a lot warped in this way. The key to defeating this kind of thinking is, of course, sticking close to the God of the Bible. Through this, we can get a clear view of the faults in ourselves and we can ask God to help us remove these faults.

I understand this for a good reason. I’ve had to give over to God my own warped view of what a loving man-woman relationship should be. I was never into Bad Boys, but there were other issues.  Sometimes, it necessary to have a seat and stay sitting down for an extended period. So it is that I have remained single for some time.

And that’s the key: recognize the problem, remove oneself from it, and ask the Professional Fixer of Things for help.

As for the wannabe lovers of serial killers, however, the fist step — recognition — can’t happen when one’s eyes are closed.

Juliette Akinyi Ochieng has been blogging since 2003 as baldilocks. Her older blog is here.  She published her first novel, Tale of the Tigers: Love is Not a Game in 2012.

Hit Da Tech Guy Blog’s Tip Jar for his new not-GoDaddy host!

Or hit Juliette’s!