The Cuban Deal Crisis

We have a crisis in Cuba. Not one involving missiles (at least not yet), but one involving a lack of a deal. It’s been 3 years since Castro died and 8 years since Raul took over, and yet we seem no closer to a deal. Cuba is still the only place Americans are specifically banned from visiting, even for tourism, and although there are ways around it, the influx of people that started under the Obama administration has since died down.

Congress is challenging the ban, but it’s likely to go nowhere, given a split House/Senate and a lack of media coverage on the issue. One person that is paying attention is Vladmir Putin, and Russia has been working to increase military ties with the island nation. Ironically, with the end of the INF treaty, we could see renewed interest by the Russians in placing missiles in Cuba and Venezuela in response to US troop increases in Poland and Romania.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. While we’ve been at a standoff in Venezuela, a deal in Cuba is possible. It’s been enough years that the hardliners on both sides have died off. Cuba’s economy is not doing well, and Russia doesn’t have the cash or economy to offer a deal like the US can. A US deal with Cuba would deny Russia access to ports that they could safely operate Naval vessels, such as the Gorshkov-class Frigate that carry land-attack cruise missiles.

Perhaps that is the way we are headed. President Trump’s recent crackdown on Cuba travel might be intended to place the country in a more desperate situation to spark negotiations. He doesn’t like to negotiate unless he is in a good position, and the Obama travel relaxations were freebies with no conditions attached. Getting a Cuba deal, on top of a deal with North Korea and (maybe) Iran, would be quite a crowning achievement.

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Mayim Bialik unintentionally explains the price women have paid for Feminism.

There are a lot of great things about the latest offering from Mayim Bialik at her youtube channel titled: I’m A Stay-At-Home Mom…Again!

It’s full of great insights, the details of basic life, the tasks of a mother of young sons, the repetitiveness and ordinariness of mother’s average day, but it’s the realization of what she has changed in her relationship with her two sons in the ten years that she was not home that really struck a chord with me.

Before I was Amy Farah Fowler, our relationship was like “Momma help me survive!” and I was like “OK I will, that’s what I live for.” and it’s not like that anymore. So what is life after the big bang theory, it’s terrifying because I worry that I’ve missed the most tender time of their lives. I’ve missed that transition from being everything to whatever I find that I am now.

Now don’t get me wrong, she talks about the value of the current relationship and how the job she has now as a stay at home mom is “…the most secure job in the universe.” But Think about what she said there.

For decades I have heard Feminism decry the culture of nurture that a stay at home mom provided, how it was holding women back and that it wasn’t as fulfilling as a career while not recognizing what that job brought or if spending 40 hours in a warehouse away from their young kids is more fulfilling that watching them grow up.

Even more important those who have sold and still sell feminism didn’t take into account the costs of the sexual “empowerment” that they pitched. The vast majority of women don’t have the education of Bialik nor the financial independence that was provided by nearly a decade on the most popular comedy in the nation that allows her to function as a single divorced mother at home without worrying about how the bills are going to be paid.

Many of those women are stuck between the reality of proving for a child without the support of a man or finding themselves alone never having that knowledge of being the most important person in the world to someone during their lifetime.

The joys she was talking about were once known to society having been learned over centuries of experience, but to the post sixties generation that threw them away in the certain belief that they knew better than those to came before them and the generations of today who have had to live in the world that 60’s generation crated Ms. Bialik’s video is a revelation.

May they take this newfound knowledge and apply it wisely.

30 tips to stay married 30 years Tip 23 The Dollar Store is Your Friend

It’s been over a year since I added to my “30 tips to stay married 30 years” list mostly because I couldn’t think of any new ones past 22 but today one hit me.

DaWife and I went out to lunch and on the way back I stopped at the dollar store to buy reading glasses as I’m constantly losing or breaking them. As I was checking out I noticed a bunch of balloons and one of them said “princess” I bought it at once and had the clerk put it in a bag so DaWife wouldn’t see me coming out with it.

She was absolutely delighted and the smile has not left her face.

All that for the investment of a dollar.

So when you’re out make it a point to notice things like that because an inexpensive gift like that can make all the difference.

DaTips so far (sorry due to the site problems no direct links available

Tip 1: Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engagement
Tip 3: Get Married in Church
Tip 4: Don’t write your own vows.
Tip 5: Set limits early
Tip 6: Live Modestly
Tip 7: Embrace Your Mother-In-Law
Tip 8: If possible take advantage of your parent’s advice.
Tip 9: Don’t Diss your spouse to your friends
Tip 10: Remember Birthday’s and Anniversaries
Tip 11: NEVER VENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA!
Tip 12: 30 Tips to stay Married 30 years Today’s Tip: Pray
Tip 13: Angry Gifts
Tip 14: Don’t sweat the Small stuff
Tip 15: Carefully Choose the Hills Worth Dying On
Tip 16: Avoid Temptation and Suspicion
Tip 17: Have an Argument Escape Plan (and or let your spouse use their’s)
Tip 18: Don’t spoil the kids, particularly early.
Tip 19: A United Front
Tip 20: Remember Marriage is work.
Tip 21: Maintain Surprise
Tip 22: Ignore the Jones