It's time to bring up the subject of kids I was watching a video of my kids first couple of christmas' and in so doing what really jumped out at me was how the whole gift business seemed all about us rather than the kids. Every time the kid opened a gift they liked and … Continue reading 30 tips to stay married 30 years. Don’t spoil the kids, particularly early.
Peter and Val, a bit of advice, when you get into a fight, don't throw the expensive stuff. My Pal Roger on our wedding video. April 9th 1988 The last several tips have been about arguments and disagreements and this one is for when you are getting deep into an argument. There comes a time … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Have an Argument Escape Plan (and or let your spouse use their’s)
Katherine McLintock: Oh congratulations I don't want to seem prudish but if you are going to be marrying sheriff Lord you seem to be sitting on the wrong man's lap. McKlintok! 1963 I'm Married not Dead My dad, on many occasions When Mike Pence was first mentioned as a possible vice presidential candidate he was … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years: Today’s Tip Avoid Temptation and Suspicion
this is the companion of Don't sweat the small stuff. Carefully Choose the Hills Worth Dying On. While questions like Do you want a blue bedspread vs a yellow one? What type of flowers do we plant in the front Do you buy Tide or Gain to do the laundry? aren't worth a dispute things … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years, Today: Carefully Choose the Hills Worth Dying On
Deputy: That them shootin'? Sheriff Langston: No, it's coming from those rocks. Deputy: Well, let's go. He ain't hittin' nothin'. Sheriff Langston: You idiot, he's hit everything he's aimed at! Deputy: Well, they ain't out of our jurisdiction 'til they reach the flattop. [Sheriff Langston's hat is shot off his head] Sheriff Langston: Today, my … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years, Today: Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Beloved, do not look for revenge but leave room for the wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” Rather, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals upon his head.” Romans … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 years, Today’s tip: Angry Gifts.
Rev John Witherspoon: Nowhere do you mention the supreme being. Why surely this is an oversight as how can we expect to win our independence without his help, therefore I humbly offer the following addition to your final paragraph: 'With the firm reliance on the protection of divine providence.' 1776 (1972) In the end any … Continue reading 30 Tips to stay Married 30 years Today’s Tip: Pray
The Internet is forever Modern Proverb This is the only bit of advice that I have given in all caps but it is about as critical as it gets. In life there are always frustrations and in the days before the internet people vented in a bar, or to a friend or, as I like … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: NEVER VENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA!
I was actually planning a different tip to do next but yesterday was DaWife's birthday so all the plans went out the window, which makes this a perfect time to put up this tip: Remember Birthday's and Anniversaries. Granted in these days of smartphones and various planners and Alexa who can remind you of days … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years: Remember Birthdays and Anniversaries
Marisa: Can you keep a secret? Caroline: Yes of course. Marisa: Good. So can I. Maid in Manhattan 2002 This is a corollary to the our last tip about going to parents or older relatives for advice. There are times when your spouse is going to drive you nuts and you will want to vent … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: Don’t Diss your Spouse to your friends
This is one piece of advice that is completely conditional for several reasons: 1. Many people are getting married later so it is very possible that their parents are no longer alive. 2. In this era many people have divorced parents separated by distance or come from a single parent household and never knew one … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: If Possible Take Advantage of Your Parent’s Advice
One of the first bits of advice I remember hearing on marriage came when I was a little kid talking to my Dad. He had told me that when he got married his father told him to make sure he treated his mother-in-law better than he treated his mother. He lived this out In 1968 … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years: Today’s Tip Embrace Your Mother-In-Law
This one is very hard. There are certain things that are important to individuals for whatever reason, either they value them or they hate them with a passion. These things develop over our youth and by the time we're getting married they are ingrained, sometimes to a degree where we think Of COURSE everyone feels … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years: Set Limits Early
Jesus Christ: Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate. Mark 10:9 I think it's no coincidence that it's been years since I've been to a wedding at Church and that so many of the weddings I've been to during that time have failed. To many a wedding is just a big party … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: Get Married in Church
One month from today I will be celebrating my 30th wedding anniversary. In an age when we see articles like this from old friend John Hawkins talk about how marriage is a bad deal this is a rare thing. My standard line is to credit this success to my good luck and my wife's failing … Continue reading 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: Choose Wisely