I spoke to Blythe Kaufman at the end of the 2018 Catholic Marketing Network Trade Show in Lancaster PA

I wish I had known about this side room, before it would have been a great place to conduct interviews

Blythe is one the best examples of an ordinary person doing extraordinary things though the Lord that there is

The site for the Children’s Rosary is here.


The 2018 Catholic Marketing Network Interview Bloglist (so far)

Sept 23rd Voices of CMN 2018 Blythe Kaufman of the Children’s Rosary

Sept 22nd Voices of CMN 2018 Kevin O’Neil Author: LEGO Catechism of the Seven Sacraments

Sept 21st Voices of CMN 2018 Julia Miller of FreshRosary.com

Sept 20th Voices of CMN 2018: Fr Leo Pucelli of Holy Cross Family Ministries

Sept 19th Voices of CMN 2018 Kathy Labosh Author: The Child with Autism Learns about Faith

Sept 18th Voices of CMN 2018 Francine Calabrese Author: The Little Brown Scapular Coloring Book

Sept 17th Voices of CMN 2018 (and the Front Seat of My Car) Susan Joy Bellavance Author of King of the Shattered Glass and Will you Come to Mass?

Sept 16th Voices of CMN 2018 Pete Socks Breadbox Media Catholic Podcasting

Sept 15th Voices of CMN 2018 Mary Radford of Relevant Radio

Sept 14th Voices of CMN 2018 Karnen Saum of Viva Guadalupe and CMN

Sept 13th Voices of CMN 2018 Peter Kleponis Author Restoring Trust a Couples Guide to getting past porn

Sept 11th Voices of CMN 2018 Mary Lou Rosen Author Three Things Divorced Catholics Need to Know

Sept 10th Voices of CMN 2018 Mariana Quan CCC of America on their Animated Series Lukas Storyteller

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I spoke to Julia Miller of FreshRosary.com at the 2018 Catholic Marketing Network Trade Show in Lancaster PA

You really have to see these things Their web site is here.


The 2018 Catholic Marketing Network Interview Bloglist (so far)

Sept 21st Voices of CMN 2018 Julia Miller of FreshRosary.com

Sept 20th Voices of CMN 2018: Fr Leo Pucelli of Holy Cross Family Ministries

Sept 19th Voices of CMN 2018 Kathy Labosh Author: The Child with Autism Learns about Faith

Sept 18th Voices of CMN 2018 Francine Calabrese Author: The Little Brown Scapular Coloring Book

Sept 17th Voices of CMN 2018 (and the Front Seat of My Car) Susan Joy Bellavance Author of King of the Shattered Glass and Will you Come to Mass?

Sept 16th Voices of CMN 2018 Pete Socks Breadbox Media Catholic Podcasting

Sept 15th Voices of CMN 2018 Mary Radford of Relevant Radio

Sept 14th Voices of CMN 2018 Karnen Saum of Viva Guadalupe and CMN

Sept 13th Voices of CMN 2018 Peter Kleponis Author Restoring Trust a Couples Guide to getting past porn

Sept 11th Voices of CMN 2018 Mary Lou Rosen Author Three Things Divorced Catholics Need to Know

Sept 10th Voices of CMN 2018 Mariana Quan CCC of America on their Animated Series Lukas Storyteller

Continue reading “Voices of CMN 2018 Julia Miller of FreshRosary.com”

When an opportunity for me to visit Rome came up unexpectedly not long ago, I dropped everything, including blogging assignments. I will probably never have another crack at a trip to Italy with my husband. I didn’t know what to expect, but I knew I wanted to go.

I figured I might be able to write along the way. Surely there would be time. That’s not how it worked out. No one warned me of the overload of sights and impressions I’d be experiencing, and the deep contrasts I’d be witnessing. They packed an emotional punch. Perhaps the biggest contrast that hit my Catholic sensibilities was the one between churches as places of historical interest and churches as places of faith.

Rome is a city of church domes, not skyscrapers. Vatican City’s crown jewel, St. Peter’s Basilica, holds a commanding position. A walk through Rome reveals other churches that catch the eye: architectural marvels, places of art and beauty, accessible to believer and nonbeliever alike. One could be forgiven for valuing them simply as museums and artifacts of a certain period in history. That might be what brings someone through the doors for the first time.

Yet these aren’t mere artifacts of a lost time. They are places of worship. It’s odd how I felt that so strongly in St. Peter’s, thronged as it was with tourists. In the little side chapels within the nave, people were kneeling. Maybe one in twenty of the people in the vast church was there for prayer. Yet that five percent made the difference between a museum and a church. I asked where daily Mass was said, since obviously the “main” part of the church was occupied by tourists from all over the world. A guide pointed me to one of the side chapels, set apart only by a quiet attendant welcoming to the pews anyone who wanted to pray.

A few years ago, on another unexpected journey, I made a pilgrimage to St. Mark’s in Venice. The main doors, the big ones, were designated for tourists, of whom there were many. Who could visit the city without taking in that stunning edifice? For those wanting to pray, there was a smaller door off to the side: not to shunt anyone aside, but to guide pilgrims to a quiet area devoid of cameras and chatter.

In both Rome and Venice, I recognized those little side chapels as powerhouses, even if my Italy guidebook didn’t.

I came home to my little parish church, where the architecture is far more modest and draws no tourists. No one would ever confuse it with a museum. I came home to neighbors as appalled as I by the news of yet more abuse, more episcopal failures, more reminders that if my faith in God relies on anyone’s miter and staff then my faith is doomed to shatter.

Tough news to come home to after Rome, for sure. Yet in a way, my journey had set me up to face tough news. Rome was a challenging place for me. Beautiful and vibrant, yes. But around every corner and under every dome was that contrast and tension: museum, or house of worship?  I think that as long as those side chapels are occupied by people at prayer, the tension resolves in favor of worship.

I think that these days, both in Rome and at home, prayer is not only worship of God but also an act of defiance against people who need to be defied: all those who would weaken others’ faith, break bruised reeds, betray trust. A dangerous attitude, that. Prayer without humility and love becomes the clanging cymbal of which St. Paul warned us. Yet abandoning prayer altogether leaves the field to the museum-goers. I’m not prepared to do that.

Rome and Vatican City were a revelation to me. Nothing I studied prepared me properly for all the food, sights, history, and the accompanying  sensory overload. Yet quite against my will, elbowing its way into all my other memories is that sight of people praying off to the side in St. Peter’s. One in twenty, giving soul to the church, quietly pushing back against all that would render it a mere museum.

I spoke to Catalina Ramos about two big upcoming prayer events for our nation The Rosary Coast to Coast Oct 7th

whose website is here

and the Novena for our Nation which begins Aug 15

Whose website is here

My Station WQPH has signed up for both of these events

Incidentally I do apologize to Catalina for not using her name in the title but I suspect she is more interested in promoting the events than promoting herself.


Aug 12th Voices of CMN 2018 Novena for Our Nation Starting Aug 15th & Rosary Coast to Coast Oct 7th

Aug 11th Voices at the 2018 CMN Moria Noonan Co-Author: Spiritual Deceptions

Aug 10th Voices of CMN 2018 Lesliea Wahl Author: An Unexpected Role

Aug 9th Voices of CMN 2018 Gerard Hasenhuetti Compassionate Capitalism The Intersection of Economic Growth and Social Justice

Aug 8th
Voices at CMN 2018 Ruth Apollonia Author of Annabelle of Anchony

Voices at CMN 2018 Kimberly Cook My Hand in Yours Yours in Mine Catholic Authors

Aug 6th Voices at CMN 2018 August Turak Author: Brother John: A Monk, a Pilgrim and the Purpose of Life

Aug 5th Voices at CMN 2018 Fr. Edward Looney Author A Heart Like Mary’s

Aug 4th: Karina Fabian of the Catholic Writers Guild or A Preview of Blogging Attractions


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One of the problems with people are the expectations we set for ourselves in things, including prayer.

Many times we will offer prayers and find ourselves disappointed because what we pray for doesn’t come at once.

One must remember not to pray as if you are casting a magic spell because that’s not what it is, nor should we assume that the specific item that we are praying for is God’s will.

Regardless of our feelings, our desires God will use our prayers in the way that most suits his purpose and as Jesus taught us to pray “Thine will be done.” not “my will be done.”

So if after today’s final day of prayer you find that the world is still not the world you want it to be don’t lose heart or faith, persevere both in pray and action and take comfort that when you pray the our father / the Lord’s Prayer and declare: “Thine will be done”, that request will be granted.

As Christians that should be enough.

Today is the first of Three Days of fasting and Prayer for the church, the Pope and ourselves that I wrote about here.

If we want to banish the demons that plague the church and ourselves this is the way to do it, after all this is exactly what Christ suggested :

Then the disciples approached Jesus in private and said, “Why could we not drive it out?” He said to them, “Because of your little faith. Amen, I say to you, if you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you. But this kind does not come out except by prayer and fasting“.

That’s good enough for me.

By an odd coincidence I have had a rough few days in terms of health, finances and personal situations but it’s at those times that we should most turn to God rather than seek solace in the world whose prince is not on our side as CS Lewis says in Screwtape:

“Do not be deceived, Wormwood. Our cause is never more in danger than when a human, no longer desiring, but still intending, to do our Enemy’s will, looks round upon a universe from which every trace of Him seems to have vanished, and asks why he has been forsaken, and still obeys.” 

Many Christians look at the world today and wonder where God is.   The truth is that while the dominant culture has forsaken God and pushes that abandonment on us as the solution to our problems, it remains a lie.  The solution to our problems IS God and our abandonment of him is the cause.

May we turn to prayer and fasting today and follow the example of Christ, who while suffering and asking God why he was forsaken still obeyed.

I have said on more than one occasion that I think Pope Francis is a mixed bag.  He talks a lot about mercy and the reality of the Devil which is very good but tends to act like a local pastor ignoring that he is the head of the entire church which is very bad.  I think he, like most Popes, has been mediocre.

Since we had a canonized saint as Pope (John Paul II) for over a quarter of a century it’s natural that Francis would pale in comparison but there are real reasons to critique the way this Pope has handled things from China and the underground church to the Dubia which has still remained unanswered after over 550 days.  It is entirely proper to critique these failures, nevertheless he is still the Pope the head of the church until God wills that he is not.

There is always the danger that such a critique progresses to the point of considering the Holy Father our enemy ( which ironically would require us per the non-optional doctrine of the church, to love him and to pray for him) and causes us to embrace that first of the deadly sins, pride which Christ warned us of.

Two people went up to the temple area to pray; one was a Pharisee and the other was a tax collector. The Pharisee took up his position and spoke this prayer to himself, ‘O God, I thank you that I am not like the rest of humanity – greedy, dishonest, adulterous – or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week, and I pay tithes on my whole income.’

But the tax collector stood off at a distance and would not even raise his eyes to heaven but beat his breast and prayed, ‘O God, be merciful to me a sinner.’

I tell you, the latter went home justified, not the former; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”

Luke 18:10-14

And we can we can be sure that if our zeal takes us there our foe the Devil will be at our shoulder trying to tempt us in just that direction.

So what are we to do if we want to do something yet want to avoid crossing the line that our true enemy wants us to?  Fortunately as Catholics there is simple answer.

Prayer and Fasting.

I propose a three-day period of Prayer for the Pope, the Church and ourselves, where we implore God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit to bless, the entire Universal Church on earth.

For these three days I propose the following prayers:

Starting the day with an Our Father in the morning asking God the father to provide for the basic needs of the Church.

At midday A Divine Mercy Chaplet in the Afternoon to implore God mercy for the church through the sacrifice of God the Son.

Ending the Day with the Come Holy Spirit asking the God the Holy Spirit to envelop the entire church with the Spirit of discipleship.

For these three days I further propose a fast of varying degrees depending on one’s circumstances.

Abstaining from meat (full disclosure I already abstain on Wednesdays)

An Ash Wednesday like fast

A complete fast.

One could choose any of these or to progress from one to the next each day.

I further propose to begin this on May 8th the Feast of Apparition of St. Michael the defender of the church and end May 10th a feast day for Martyrs (Saints Gordian and Epimachus) High Churchmen ( St. Comgall, Abbot St. Cataldus Bishop, St. Antoninus, Archbishop) and ordinary people (St. Isidore) thus representing both the heavenly nature of such a prayer and the earthly span of the church from high to low.

If we want to banish the demons that plague the church and ourselves this is the way to do it, after all this is exactly what Christ suggested :

Then the disciples approached Jesus in private and said, “Why could we not drive it out?” He said to them, “Because of your little faith. Amen, I say to you, if you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you. But this kind does not come out except by prayer and fasting“.

That’s good enough for me.

Rev John Witherspoon: Nowhere do you mention the supreme being. Why surely this is an oversight as how can we expect to win our independence without his help, therefore I humbly offer the following addition to your final paragraph: ‘With the firm reliance on the protection of divine providence.’

1776 (1972)

In the end any relationship is a case of putting up with another person and no matter how much you love, admire and esteem them, in the end there it’s all about being able to cope when the situation isn’t what you’d like it to be.

This is why prayer is so important here.

Prayer places your situation before one who is greater than the two of you. One who like a loving father wishes the success of your marriage and most importantly has both your and your spouses best interests at heart.

Furthermore regular prayer for your marriage creates a in imperative to continue to work at a marriage, even when things are not going as you might want. By keeping that imperative you will find yourself implicitly working toward the very goal you have in mind.

Both Jesus and St. Paul say that marriage creates a single flesh, regular prayer feeds the spiritual needs of that single body and will pay dividends far beyond one’s understanding.

It’s worth noting that this tip was once common knowledge, as the Venerable Fr. Patrick Payton said: “The family that prays together stays together” and at the time when this was the norm, families did.

Take advantage of the wisdom of your great grand parents and pray for your marriage and your spouse. You won’t regret it.

The 30 Tips to Say Married 30 years so far

Tip 1:  Choose Wisely
Tip 2: A long Engagement
Tip 3: Get Married in Church
Tip 4: Don’t write your own vows.
Tip 5: Set limits early
Tip 6: Live Modestly
Tip 7: Embrace Your Mother-In-Law
Tip 8: If possible take advantage of your parent’s advice.
Tip 9: Don’t Diss your spouse to your friends
Tip 10: Remember Birthday’s and Anniversaries
Tip 11: 30 Tips to Stay Married 30 Years Today: NEVER VENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA!

Rosary cupcakes a delicious devotion

An argument arose among the disciples about which of them was the greatest. Jesus realized the intention of their hearts and took a child and placed it by his side and said to them, “Whoever receives this child in my name receives me, and whoever receives me receives the one who sent me. For the one who is least among all of you is the one who is the greatest.”

Then John said in reply, “Master, we saw someone casting out demons in your name and we tried to prevent him because he does not follow in our company.” Jesus said to him, “Do not prevent him, for whoever is not against you is for you.”

Luke 9:46:50

One of the things that a Catholic sees over the years is an incredible array of different devotion that various people insist IS the devotion you should pray, or that THIS devotion is the one that will finally get your kids or grandkids to church or change the heart of that horrible boss of yours or will bring peace to your friend or finally get the world on the right track.

Then there are all the various prayers and chaplets from the standard Rosary, to the Divine Mercy Chaplet, the St. Michael Chaplet, The Litany of the Saints , the Penitential Psalms and the prayers of various saints.

And beyond that if you go to a divine mercy chapel or to some other place of devotion you will without fail find home made slips with various special prayers that can be prayed on a standard Rosary or various chapelts

In fact I even contributed to this with my own bloggers prayer on my site that went up as soon as my pastor at the time approved it.  It goes like this:

Oh God, you who gave free will to your creation, bless those who use that precious gift to blog

May we though this gift of freedom of expression enlighten, entertain and inform our readers, and we ask particular blessing for those who bring your word across the net, that they may faithfully execute your command to make disciples of all nations.

We ask this  through Christ our Lord, Amen.

This situation is  amplified by 10 if you write about the church, attend Catholic events or go to any national event.  The number of such devotions you are exposed to, involving saints both ancient and modern, miracles long forgotten or new and all kinds of revelations to the point where you realize that not only is God not dead as the left insisted in the sixties but he and the saints still seem to be working overtime for the salvation of souls.

But that leaves the questions on the floor?  Of all of these various devotions:

What are the best ones to pray?

and

Which one are the most likely to be answered?

The answer to both questions is the same: all of them.

In terms of what you should or should not pray, as long as your it is legitimate, unherticial and not forbidden by the Church, ANY prayer, devotion or practice that is the direct worship of God the Father, the Son, or the Holy Spirit or intercessory in nature asking the Blessed Mother or the saints to pray and intercede with God the Father, the Son or the Holy Spirit  either directly, is of value and worth encouraging.

The idea is not so which prayers or devotion you embrace but that you regularly pray bringing your devotions to the Lord and make such prayer habitual.  It is that regular prayer, whether the liturgy of the hours, a daily rosary or regular adoration or whatever devotion you embrace that will bring you closer to God and if you find you are more inclined to one devotion more than another by all means go with it.

My rule of thumb is the best prayer is the one you actually DO.

As for which prayers will be answered the likely hood God answering any prayer is dependent not so much on the prayer used, but on the following:

Your request being in accordance with the will of God.

If what your praying for is contrary to God’s will, it’s just not going to happen.  The desire for God to do our will via prayer rather than the desire of us to accomplish God will through prayer is not only ineffective but is conducive to the Sin of Pride.  If we treat our communication with God like the voice taking your order in a drive through we shouldn’t be surprised if we open the bag after leaving and find something other than what we expected.

Your faith in God’s ability to answer your request.   Presuming your request is in accord with God will faith is still a key ingredient.   Over and over in scripture Jesus notes where faith is the difference between a prayer even by a person “unworthy” (“Lord, even the dogs under the table eat the children’s scraps.” Then he said to her, “For saying this, you may go. The demon has gone out of your daughter.” MK 7:28,29) being granted to a prayer by the worthiest ( Jesus rebuked him and the demon came out of him, and from that hour the boy was cured. Then the disciples approached Jesus in private and said, “Why could we not drive it out?” He said to them, “Because of your little faith. “Mt 17:18-20a ) Just as faith without works is dead, prayer without faith is just words without meaning.  It’s worth noting that a sign of faith in prayer is persistence in prayer.

The disposition of the Target of a prayer.  This is a function of the freedom God provides us as humans.  One of the most common prayers you will run into is someone praying for the conversion to the faith or that someone will find their way to God.  These prayers are of great use and can aid a guardian angel in opening doors and opportunities for such repentance but while our guardian angel is always on the job and God never tires of opening doors that lead to his right hand in the end a person has to be willing to take step however small to seize that opportunity, walk though that door or grasp that hand.  Furthermore we have to remember it’s not WHEN such a thing takes place but THAT such a thing takes place that matters.    So be persistent as the Holy Spirit does the heavy lifting.

So here is my advice:   Pray liberally, wait patiently and have faith that while you might not know what God & the Holy Spirit is doing, he does.

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As longtime readers might know my radio show DaTechGuy on DaRadio ended three years ago and since last year it has been replaced by a podcast titled DaTechGuy off DaRadio which is still carried online by the 405media , emailed to subscribers when it’s done and available on this site (usually by Wednesday) by clicking on the fedora in the upper right corner.

What you might not know is two years ago I recorded a pilot series (under my own name Peter Ingemi) for WQPH 89.3 Catholic Radio on prayer called Your Prayer Intentions where I talk prayer and scripture and then pray.

This week I was informed by WQPH that they have decided to pick up the series and will be airing the already recorded and airing them Saturdays starting this weekend, consequently they will be wanting me to record new episodes as soon as practicable.

So keep an ear open for WQPH 89.3 on Saturdays and Catch Your Prayer Intentions and if you HAVE a prayer intention that you’d like me to pray for either on the air or off, email me here at prayerrequests at DaTechGuyblog dot com and I will include said intentions in my prayers during the show. If you have prayer intentions and do not want them aired but still want them prayed for make sure that is noted in your email.

As the naem of the show implies this show is all about souls and the church, there will be nothing political about it, but don’t worry, if you are looking for our insightful commentary concerning the events of the week DaTechGuy off DaRadio will still be carrying on with two hours of talk and thought for you to enjoy.

So keep an ear open for WQPH 89.3 on Saturdays and Catch Your Prayer Intentions.

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