One month from today I will be celebrating my 30th wedding anniversary.
In an age when we see articles like this from old friend John Hawkins talk about how marriage is a bad deal this is a rare thing.
My standard line is to credit this success to my good luck and my wife’s failing eyesight but the reality is that like anything else the success of my marriage is not accidental and comes from decisions both past and current.
So over the next 30 days I’m going to give you 30 tips in no particular order of importance 30 tips on making your current or upcoming or future marriage last 30 thirty years.
Today’s Tip: Choose Wisely
Eddie Kagle [as Judge Parker] We want to get married.
Minister: Why? [confused looks] Too many people get married today without asking why?
Angel on my Shoulder 1946
This is such an obvious statement that it seems ridiculous to mention it but many people both get married and choose a mate in haste or without considering the most important things to consider.
- Is this the person that I want raising my children? Teaching them right and wrong, protecting them?
- Will this person contribute to our mutual partnership, if not financially, in terms of morale, in terms of action, or spiritually?
- Is this person compatible with me in the morals and beliefs that I wish to pass onto our children?
- Can I see myself waking up next to this person in 30 years and being glad that I did?
Today’s culture ignores these questions, encourages people to make rash decisions based on transitory emotions, but without these important practical questions, asked and answered up front, you are going to find that the seeds of failure will be planted right at the start.