James McCandles: Do this, do that! I’m gonna do whatever I want!
Sam Sharpnose: You do what he tells you, every time he tells you and we might come through this alive! Might even save the boy. Otherwise you’re gonna get yourself killed. Don’t matter to me, but you’ll probably get him killed too, and that does.Big Jake 1971
This is one piece of advice that is completely conditional for several reasons:
- 1. Many people are getting married later so it is very possible that their parents are no longer alive.
- 2. In this era many people have divorced parents separated by distance or come from a single parent household and never knew one of them.
Nevertheless if you are in a position to get the advice of a parent by all means take it.
Your parents whether successful or not in marriage themselves not only bring years of life experience to the table but are a source of unconditional love and support. There are going to be times when you need to vent in a marriage and such venting is best with a person with more life experience than you.
Thanks to current technology you are in a position to speak to parents “face to face” on a daily basis in a way that couples in the past can not. Of course if they live close enough to be directly engaged with your family on a regular basis it is even better.
Parents are the best choice, they can see things from outside of a circle of friends, furthermore they are less likely to have a side agenda that they are trying to promote.
Your parents want your life to work, let them help you.
A final thought, if for whatever reason parents are unavailable or inappropriate for such advice, an older Uncle or Aunt can serve this function.
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