There are a lot of great things about the latest offering from Mayim Bialik at her youtube channel titled: I’m A Stay-At-Home Mom…Again!
It’s full of great insights, the details of basic life, the tasks of a mother of young sons, the repetitiveness and ordinariness of mother’s average day, but it’s the realization of what she has changed in her relationship with her two sons in the ten years that she was not home that really struck a chord with me.
Before I was Amy Farah Fowler, our relationship was like “Momma help me survive!” and I was like “OK I will, that’s what I live for.” and it’s not like that anymore. So what is life after the big bang theory, it’s terrifying because I worry that I’ve missed the most tender time of their lives. I’ve missed that transition from being everything to whatever I find that I am now.
Now don’t get me wrong, she talks about the value of the current relationship and how the job she has now as a stay at home mom is “…the most secure job in the universe.” But Think about what she said there.
For decades I have heard Feminism decry the culture of nurture that a stay at home mom provided, how it was holding women back and that it wasn’t as fulfilling as a career while not recognizing what that job brought or if spending 40 hours in a warehouse away from their young kids is more fulfilling that watching them grow up.
Even more important those who have sold and still sell feminism didn’t take into account the costs of the sexual “empowerment” that they pitched. The vast majority of women don’t have the education of Bialik nor the financial independence that was provided by nearly a decade on the most popular comedy in the nation that allows her to function as a single divorced mother at home without worrying about how the bills are going to be paid.
Many of those women are stuck between the reality of proving for a child without the support of a man or finding themselves alone never having that knowledge of being the most important person in the world to someone during their lifetime.
The joys she was talking about were once known to society having been learned over centuries of experience, but to the post sixties generation that threw them away in the certain belief that they knew better than those to came before them and the generations of today who have had to live in the world that 60’s generation crated Ms. Bialik’s video is a revelation.
May they take this newfound knowledge and apply it wisely.