Porn Vs Reality A Public Service Message

The prevalence of pornography in society has reached a point where I think it’s rather important to remind people of an important difference between porn and reality:

No matter how many videos you have seen on the multitude of porn sites available on the internet suggesting a different more amorous outcome in this situation, the reality is that if your wife ever comes home and catches you having sex with your mother this is the most likely result:

 A mother and her son are facing the possibility of spending 20 years in prison after being caught having sex by the man’s wife, according to police and court documents.

Police were called to a residence on Clarendon Street on May 20 on a report of a disturbance, the responding officer reported.

When he arrived, he was greeted by a cousin of the wife of Tony L. Lavoie, 43, of Clarendon Street.

The cousin told the officer that Lavoie’s wife had called her about walking in on her husband having sex with his mother, Cheryl Lavoie, 64, of the same address, before calling 911.

This is what reality looks like, you have been warned.

Closing thought: A while back 2014 to be exact I wrote a post about the progression of the porn industry showing how the industry was going further and further toward incest as a norm (quotes within the full quote in italics)

If twenty years ago when all of the stuff I’ve written about was WAY beyond the pale, when Porn was not easily accessible to the general public at home,  a young girl actually wondered if this stuff was normal, what will young women think when they’ve been inoculated to this for a decade? Stacy McCain had it pegged:

Popular culture has been so corrupt for so long that many young people are incapable of making any distinction between vice and virtue, categories that sophisticated people are expected to reject as old-fashioned, if not altogether obsolete or, indeed, hatefully oppressive. As for the attitudes of adults, well, they are supposed to strive for eternal youth, to conform both their appearance and their appetites to the fashionable standards prevailing among the most shamelessly adventurous adolescents.

he closes thus.

Welcome to America in 2013. Welcome to the New Abnormal.

And if the New abnormal is where it is today in 2013 where will it be in 2024?

And people wonder why the folks at Netflix still don’t see the problem with “Cuties”?

2024 is still four years away but if you go to a porn site today you will be bombarded with choices concerning mothers and sons fathers and daughters and whole family units doing stuff that would be considered the so fringe of the fringe twenty years ago that Jeffrey Epstein & Ghislaine Maxwell might have said “EWW”.

What do you think the sexual standards of the folks who grew up on this stuff are going to be like in 30 years?

John Adams and Cops Shows Cancelling The Future to be Woke Today

Public business my son, must always be done by somebody.— it will be done by somebody or other— If wise men decline it others will not: if honest men refuse it, others will not. A young man should well weigh his plans. Integrity should be preserved in all events, as essential to his happiness, thro every stage of his existence. His first maxim then, should be to place his honor out of the reach of all men

John Adams to his son Thomas Sept 2 1789

Because of it’s nature Television has an over-sized ability to influence culture to the good or to ill. It is no coincidence that many of the cultural changes that have had negative connotations for society have been pushed by the celebrity culture for the sake of their own justification over the years for example: Sex in the City

I do wonder what my life would have looked like if “Sex and the City” had never come across my consciousness. Perhaps I’d be married with children now? Who knows, but I can say for sure that, as clever and aesthetically pleasing as the show was — and, as much as I agree with its value of female friendships — it showed too much consumerism and fear of intimacy disguised as empowerment.

It’s like candy: In the moment it feels good to eat it, but afterward, you feel sick. Whom you’re dating, what you’re wearing, or how good you look at that premiere — none of that s–t matters unless you genuinely love yourself. Solid relationships are what really matter.

Truth be told, I wish I had never heard of “SATC.” I’m sure there are worse role models but, for me, it did permanent and measurable damage to my psyche that I’m still cleaning up.

Sure, I could have been a dating columnist for the rest of my life but, honestly, I gave really bad dating advice — and so did Carrie Bradshaw.

Many women fell for this fantasy and are regretting it now. It’s worth noting that Sarah Jessica Parker got married in 1997 at age 32 and has been married to Matthew Broadrick ever since. She knew it was just a show.

However there were and are plenty of shows that can influence for the good. How many people became engineers because they wanted to Scotty from Star Trek or got into science because they wanted to be the Professor from Gilligan’s Island?

Cop shows are like this. I suspect there are plenty of people who became cops because they wanted shows about police as a kid and decided they wanted to be the honest cop the person of integrity and honor , who serves and protects others from the dangers of the world. Even shows like Barney Miller, which highlighted the monotony of the job, featured good people doing good things.

Now I ask you. If you decide to teach that the police are evil and to be rejected and you remove that image of the honest cop from the culture what will replace it? And more importantly WHO will replace it when it comes time to seek people to actually do one of the most thankless jobs of society.

Let me remind you again of John Adams’ quote that started this piece

Public business my son, must always be done by somebody.— it will be done by somebody or other— If wise men decline it others will not: if honest men refuse it, others will not.

This is being demonstrated in Seattle today. If the Police don’t do the policing others will who just might not be wise or honest or worried about serving and protecting.

The Demonetization of Police by the media/left for their political purposes is going to have great damage to our society in the short term. But the removal of the image of the honest cop and policeman who protects and serves from our cultural stream will do even more damage, not now but 20 years from now, because when you don’t inspire people to be honest men and women with integrity, with no other agenda than to make their living serving the public to be cops, then those looking to exploit such a job for it’s perks while hanging back from it’s responsibilities will be the ones who fill those positions and you and your children and grandchildren who follow won’t like the result.

Sundays at Rest: The Movies I’ve Bought from Amazon: The Seven Samurai


I’m been meaning to get this Series of movie posts started for while but with Corona Virus/Wuhan Virus panic in place it seems the best time to start recommending movies to buy and watch at home that perhaps folks have not seen.


Common sense tells you that a movie that runs over three hours and twenty minutes would have a slow moment or two that you can or want to take your eyes off the screen.

However that is only common sense if you’ve never watched the Seven Samurai.

There is not a shot, not a performance and not a line not even a glance in the picture that is wasted. Everything plays to the story. It’s everything that a movie is supposed to me.

If you are firm in the quite rational belief that The Godfather or Casablanca or Gone With the Wind or Citizen Cane is the greatest movie ever made nothing will challenge it more than watching this movie.

In theory the movie is about Seven Samurai who are hired come to save a poor village from bandits.

The reality is it’s really about how the process of doing so saves them. I find it one of the most Catholic movies I’ve ever seen. It’s all about responsibility, sacrifice and being one brother’s keeper and the costs that come from it.

In the beginning we see the bandits arriving at the village and noting that the barley harvest has not yet taken place and deciding to come back later when it does. The villagers frustrated by the cycle that all of their labor going to feed others without recompense look for a solution. The old man of the villege suggesting hiring Samurai. When they insist they have nothing to offer expect for food he replies “Find Hungry Samurai”.

Thus begins the 1st of three distinct phases of the picture

  1. The quest to find Samurai
  2. The preparing of the village
  3. The Actual Battle

For the modern viewer ignorant of history the culture shock of the caste system whereby a Samurai has the authority to kill and the villager is nothing and where rice is a currency in itself is striking, but this group of poor farmers attempt to approach Samurai who consider themselves far above them is really something. Eventually they get lucky when they encounter Kambei Shimada (Takashi Shimura) a wandering rōnin, (masterless samauri) who saves a young boy taken hostage by a bandit who considers their problem and agrees to help, they also get in the bargain the young and inexperienced Katsushirō (Isao Kimura) who, impressed by Kambei’s rescue of the child begs to be his disciple. Meanwhile Kikuchiyo also impressed by Kambei’s ( Toshirô Mifune ) actions starts shadowing them .

This entire sequence of Kambei attempting to find and recruit men to go on this quest that offers no glory or reward could easily stand alone as a movie in its own right. In fact if this picture was made in 2014 instead of 1954 it would likely have without a doubt been a trilogy and a whole franchise. Eventually Kambei recruits an old friend Shichirōji ( Daisuke Katô ), Gorobei ( Yoshio Inaba) who is fascinated by Kambei, Heihachi ( Minoru Chiaki) whose real skill is morale rather than the sword ; and Kyūzō ( Seiji Miyaguchi ) the master swordsman interested only his his craft.

These six (followed by Kikuchiyo ) head to the village where the 2nd part of the movie begins. The interaction between the villagers and the Samurai, the preparation for the attack and the bonding of them as a team and dramatic contrast as the villagers deal with both their fear of the Samurai and the sacrifices that they come to realize this entails. There is also the drama of Rikichi one of the farmers who went to recruit the Samurai who has a painful history unknown to them.  It is also a time of comic relief provided mainly by Kikuchiyo & Heihachi who never passes up a chance to needle him.

The climax of this idylic scene comes shortly after the encounter between Katsushirō and Shino ( Keiko Tsushima ) whose father Manzo ( Kamatari Fujiwara ) has disguised as a boy to hide her from the Samurai he fears. They spot three scouts for the bandits coming to spy on the village and the transition to the final phase of the movie, The Battle, begins.

The initial repulse of the 1st attack fills the villagers with confidence that they will be left alone for easier pickings but when they discover that the bandits are in worse shape than them and need to conquer or starve comes the realization that it is a battle to the end. Here we see the real costs of war as the villagers and the samurai both take losses up to the climax.

Ironically director Akira Kurosawa was constantly going over budget and Toho films tried to kill the project repeatedly. Kurosawa who wrote as well as Directed the picture however reasoned that the investment in the picture had been so great that they were unlikely to let it die and successfully argued fought for its completion.

While the movie was a success the critics in Japan were not as impressed but upon foreign release it reaped rewards and directors far and wide would be inspired by this storytelling. The film would be remade in the US as the Magnificent Seven replacing samurai with gunfighters with Mexico as a setting over Japan but the reach of this film, it’s cinematography is perfect, the performances (particularly Mifune & Shimura ) are outstanding and complement some of the best writing and storytelling you will see in a movie.

Social Isolation from the Corona / Wuhan Virus might not be pleasant, but if it means that you and millions others will discover this classic it will certainly not be wasted.

Why Corona Panic? Because we’re so Insulated from Danger

Right now the panic over the Corona Virus is doing a lot more damage than the virus itself. The media for both political and rating reasons are pushing this for all it’s worth and the public seems to be buying into this hook, line and sinker.

One might wonder why this is the case. After all this isn’t the first new virus out there and it won’t be the last, moreover the death rate is rather small and there is a specific population that is most at risk (elderly and infirm) who can be targeted for protective measures.

So why is everyone acting as if the world is going to end and that we are all in danger? I suspect because we so rarely are.

Unless you are living in a gang controlled area of a Democrat run city or have a job that involves risking your life regularly odds are you rarely if ever face an actual non-accidental danger to your life. Oh there is the odd hurricane or tornado and once is a very great while some lunitic goes off on a binge, but the reality is that basic threats to one’s life that were common 200 years ago, from nearby enemies, brigands and raiders or from diseases which were common 100 year ago have generally been eliminated from ordinary life in he US.

We life in a society that rarely faces death, and while that is good thing one of the side effects culturally is that we as a people don’t cope with the reality or the possibility of death very well. We deny it, we duck and dodge but death as a reality of life just isn’t there for most people on a daily basis.

So just like college students at $50K a year universities who cry oppression without irony when ginned up by activists with an ulterior motive the public living in one of the safest societies in the history of humanity is stampeded by a media who knows better into a panic for a disease which while dangerous is when it comes down to it a severe flu and can be arrested in its spread by basic hygiene that people should be doing anyways.

This is the price of the life we currently have and given the alternative of living in much more dangerous times it’s a small price to pay, but I sometimes wonder how such people are going to cope when an actual crisis comes up..

I suspect not well.

Interviews With Immigrants Lucy from Vietnam (and EWTN’s Daily Mass)

Lucy and me EWTN studios Irondale Alabama 9-6-18 (camera date was off)

The Latest in my series of Interviews with Immigrants is the incredible story of Lucy from Vietnam which I conducted during my trip to EWTN studios in Alabama at the beginning of the month.

If you are a person who regularly watches the Daily mass on EWTN you have seen Lucy in her white alb as she has not missed a mass in ten years.  If you’ve ever wondered who she is and wanted to know her story, here is your chance to hear it.

I had planned to get this interview up earlier but the Kavanaugh stuff ate up all the oxygen on the net

The full Interviews with Immigrants playlist:

Philippe: Haiti

Hanna:  Iraq

Alvin:  El Salvador

Maria:  the Dominican Republic (translated by Christian from Puerto Rico)

Lucine: Cape verde Islands

Donald:  Cameroon

Margaret Mary, England.

Lucy, Vietnam

And the updated map


Woody Allen to the Porn Industry…Faster Please (Content Warning)

Ick is just an argument about culture. It is the same argument that one would have heard concerning gay marriage less that 20 years ago.

DaTechGuy Richard Cohen Narcissist or Bigot 2008

Martin Rittenhome: Young man I sell over $14 million dollars a year worth of Geritol, Geritol, that’s the kind of businessman I am. That show twenty-one, cost me 3 1/2 million dollars year in and year out. Sales went up 50% when Van Doren was on. 50%! So the very idea that I was unaware of every detail or aspect of that show’s operation, well frankly it’s very insulting.

Quiz show 1994

Any smart advertiser will tell you the secret of establishing brand loyalty starts at an early age.  For example the Radio Shack Ad at the Superbowl is effective because it brought a bunch of faces that people remembered that they enjoyed from their youth.  If you want to animate a person bring them thoughts from their youth and watch them light up.

As the years go by a familiar label, a particular taste will trigger the pocketbook more even that quality.  The fact that humans are creatures of habit builds on this.

Bottom line if you want to get a generation to like, want or accept something you want to get them to be thinking it at an early age and you’ve likely got them for their entire life.

The same is true with cultural changes creating heroes and villains.  Change comes slow.  If you want to move the ball of the culture or values, you have to get the ideas into kids heads when they are young.  Get em while they’re young and you’ve got em.

Which brings us to a rather disturbing trend in the pornography industry that favors Woody Allen.

You might recall a while back I did a post on Tami Erin the Pippi Longstocking actress who has decided to rebrand herself as a sex star at age 40 and noted where that career path leads.

There are already plenty of younger more voluptuous women ready and willing to carry themselves more provocatively than Ms. Erin. It won’t take long for the novelty to fade and then the stray lesbian kiss, topless shot or swing around a pole will not be enough to retain the interest and procure the monies of the MichaelDick73′s JDogg77′s and Machette42′s of the world.

That’s the point when she is going to have to go a bit farther and then a bit farther again until a search for Tami Erin will turn up results on a niche category of older woman doing X, Y and Z on porn sites around the world

and in a later post I brought up 50 something performer Magdalene St. Michaels and her business model as savvy noting that she not only pushed and linked fan site but followed fans on twitter but promoted their tweets to make them feel included.

However business models aside in an age where practically no men under 30 have not seen online porn and a increasing amount of young women are fans of people like Ms. St. Michaels. Her pornographic films career can tell us a lot about where the culture is heading..

A quick glance of Ms. St. Michaels IMDB credits shows her primary work is in lesbian films. Now there is certainly no shortage of guys interested in,  as Brian Doyle Murray’s character in the Goode Family called it “hot lesbian action”,  one can presume that as a person who’s primary output is lesbian films would have a following among women. This is key to my point.

“But DaTechGuy”, you ask,”what does that have to do with Woody Allen?” Plenty.

Let’s start by looking at the list Ms. St. Michaels performances per her IMDB page. We find a set of titles beginning in 2007 with a particular theme

2011 Lesbian Seductions: Older/Younger 35 (Video)
2010 Lesbian Seductions: Older/Younger 32 (Video)
2010 Lesbian Seductions: Older/Younger 31 (Video)
2009 Lesbian Seductions: Older/Younger 27 (Video)
2009 Lesbian Seductions: Older/Younger 26 (Video)
2009 Lesbian Seductions: Older/Younger 25 (Video)
2008 Lesbian Seductions: Older/Younger 20 (Video) (as Magadalene)
2007 Lesbian Seductions: Older/Younger 17 (Video) (as Magdalene)
2007 Lesbian Seductions: Older/Younger 14 (Video) (as Magdalene)
2007 Lesbian Seductions: Older/Younger 13 (Video) (as Magdalene)

The series of movies began according to IMDB in 2005 for we basically had nearly a decade the last movie in the series #43 came out in 2012.

Ok so we have a theme of older women seducing younger women for sex and it’s a theme that    has been in play for a decade apparently selling enough to warrant 43 variants.

I wonder if Tonya Drueppel was a fan of the series?

However even a successful series like that one eventually runs into a brick wall, basically it gets boring over time, after all if you seen one woman seduce a younger one for sex you seen all 42 of them. So given the competitive nature of the industry a new hook was found and Ms. St. Michaels found gainful employment in it:

2012 Mother Daughter Exchange Club 24 (Video)
2011 Mother-Daughter Exchange Club 21 (Video)
2011 Mother-Daughter Exchange Club 18 (Video)
2010 Mother-Daughter Exchange Club 10 (Video)
2009 Mother-Daughter Exchange Club 6 (Video)
2008 Mother-Daughter Exchange Club 3 (Video)
2008 Mother-Daughter Exchange Club 2 (Video) (as Magdalene)
2008 Mother-Daughter Exchange Club 1 (Video) (as Madgalene)

As you might have guessed by the title the “plots” are pretty much a pair of lesbian mothers meeting socially, bringing their daughters and trading them off sexually. And of course all of these things take place place in nice houses with the most reasonable looking women talking about the most normal jobs and careers before paring off.

You would think that something like this might cross a line that it would not be all that popular. After all the idea of pimping off one’s daughter to a friend in order to have sex with that’s friends daughter isn’t something that you would expect to see in the now mainstream porn industry but their producer Girlfriend films which proclaims themselves on twitter to they’re nearly 57,000 followers as the #1 leader in lesbian films. is according to wikipedia set to release the 30th in the series this year.

Furthermore the series is packaged and set to specifically appear totally normal and totally acceptable to the average person that has had been taught by the prevailing media culture for two generations to divorce themselves from Judeo Christian values & norms that once prevailed.

I wonder if the series was a favorite of Kate Hunt?

But people being people and the sex being sex it gets old until after half a decade even the concept of trading off your daughter for sex becomes old hat.  So how do you keep the customer interested?

Fortunately for those trying to get people to buy once you’ve crossed the line on pimping out your daughter the next step is really easy and painfully obvious as per some of Ms. St. Michaels latest credits.

2012 Seduced by Mommy 5 (Video)
2012 Mommy & Me 4 (Video)
2012 Seduced by Mommy 4 (Video)

Yes you are reading that right, that series is all about mothers seducing daughters and vice versa although many of the scenes come with a disclaimer at the start by the “actresses” stressing they are not in fact related in any way. Given that such behavior would be a criminal felony that would seems a wise precaution.

Now you might think a series of this nature might be on the fringes of the increasingly mainstreamed porn industry, reduced to the “gonzo” category and considered beyond the pale even for them, reduced to rejected independent operators working out of damp & dirty apartments.

You would be wrong.

The list of 2014 AVN Award Nominees for “Best all girl series” include both the Mommy & Me series (now in its 8th edition and going strong) and the mother daughter exchange club series.

And if you react as most people might with “You’ve got to be kidding me” or something a tad more demonstrative for shame. After all who is puritanical old you to critique a series nominated for awards by their peers?

In fact as the company that produces both the “Seduced by Mommy” & “Mommy & me” series proclaims to their 15K strong twitter feed 15k followers that they are a “mom & pop” business “A lesbian company”any such objection might actually be considered a hate crime.

And the various series continue into this year include a new one

Another award winner I’m sure.

But the question still stands: What does any of this have to do with Woody Allen & Dylan Farrow? Just this:

For a solid decade a series of pornographic films explicitly directed toward woman have slowly been breaking down the barriers and moving the bar between what is considered acceptable behavior and what is not.

Young women, who will someday be mothers and the protectors of their daughters will be exposed to the idea of said daughters as desirable sexual objects for them. Something that can legally be advanced, first of course as fantasy to start but and after years of exposure to that type of thing it will go from “beyond the pale” to “just another porn movie” that is seen online.

Consider this line from Dylan Farrow’s piece this weekend:

These things happened so often, so routinely, so skillfully hidden from a mother that would have protected me had she known, that I thought it was normal. I thought this was how fathers doted on their daughters. But what he did to me in the attic felt different. I couldn’t keep the secret anymore.

When I asked my mother if her dad did to her what Woody Allen did to me, I honestly did not know the answer. I also didn’t know the firestorm it would trigger.

If twenty years ago when all of the stuff I’ve written about was WAY beyond the pale, when Porn was not easily accessible to the general public at home,  a young girl actually wondered if this stuff was normal, what will young women think when they’ve been inoculated to this for a decade? Stacy McCain had it pegged:

Popular culture has been so corrupt for so long that many young people are incapable of making any distinction between vice and virtue, categories that sophisticated people are expected to reject as old-fashioned, if not altogether obsolete or, indeed, hatefully oppressive. As for the attitudes of adults, well, they are supposed to strive for eternal youth, to conform both their appearance and their appetites to the fashionable standards prevailing among the most shamelessly adventurous adolescents.

he closes thus.

Welcome to America in 2013. Welcome to the New Abnormal.

And if the New abnormal is where it is today in 2013 where will it be in 2024?

If only Woody Allen had somehow managed to delay this letter from his daughter till that time it might have been a story where he might not even feel the need to deny it and perhaps Cate Blanchett might not even have felt the need to comment at all.

Meanwhile away from Hollywood in America proper the story continues

Andrea Michelle Cardosa, 40, was arrested Monday in Riverside County, California, and charged with 16 felony counts after two former students accused her of sexually molesting them. One of the victims, Jamie Carrillo, made headlines last month when she posted a YouTube video of a phone conversation in which she confronted the teacher she said began having sex with her when she was only 12:

No word on if she was a fan.

Update: cleaned up paragraph starting with “Young women who will someday be mothers…” to make the point of the acceptance of such behavior more explicit

Update 2:  more grammatical clean up

Update 3: Fixed more grammatical errors and pulled the tip jar pitch and some dead graphics from the original post when I moved it to the new site